What is Your Name Worth

John Weaver | YouTube

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SpeakerJohn Weaver
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SubjectEconomics and Stewardship
CourseDebt, Money, and Stewardship
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Date2025-08-13
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BookBook 070: Debt, Money, and Stewardship — Chapter 8
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Synopsis: Pastor John Weaver expounds Proverbs 22:1, emphasizing that a good name—defined as character, integrity, and reputation—is more valuable than great riches. He illustrates this with biblical examples and the story of Robert E. Lee, who refused to sell his name. Weaver warns against destroying one's name through immorality, debt, or strife, and calls for repentance, reconciliation, and maintaining honor. He concludes by exalting the name of Jesus as the ultimate good name.


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Introduction: The Value of a Good Name

Weaver introduces Proverbs 22:1 and poses the question of what a good name is, noting that many desire good names for their children, often choosing biblical names for their character.

Let's open our Bibles, if you would please, to Proverbs chapter 22. And I have a little sinus in my head today, so I sound like I'm in a drum to myself. But look, if you would, Proverbs 22 in verse 1. The title of the message is "What is Your Name Worth?" What is your name worth? So God says,

Scripture Reading — Proverbs 22:1
"A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving kindness rather than silver and gold."

So we must begin by asking a question: What is a good name? Many individuals desire a good name for their children. Did you know that the most popular name in England right now is Mohammed? Because obviously Islamists have taken over England, and that would be a good name if you were an Islamist. But most people name their children after relatives, sometimes deceased relatives, and some even search the internet for what we would call popular names for children. So many Christians endeavor to name their children after biblical characters because of the integrity and the character of those individuals. I've often wondered why someone has not yet named their daughters Shiphrah and Puah. You smile when you hear those names, but let me read to you from Exodus 1 in verse 15.

And the king of Egypt spake to the Hebrew midwives, of which the name of one was Shiphrah and the name of the other Puah. And these two ladies were certainly women of character. They defied a tyrant, they obeyed God, and they refused to participate in state-sanctioned murder. And moreover, God blessed them immensely for that. So clearly, Shiphrah and Puah would be good biblical names. How about this?

Biblical Examples of Names and Sovereign Naming

Weaver discusses biblical names like Shiphrah, Puah, and the daughters of Zelophehad, and highlights how God sovereignly named individuals such as Samson, Solomon, John the Baptist, and Jesus, often before birth.

Have you ever thought about the daughters of Zelophehad? Now you will find these girls mentioned several times in the Bible, but in Numbers chapter 26 in verse 33, the Bible said, "And Zelophehad the son of Hepher had no sons, but daughters: and the names of the daughters of Zelophehad were Mahlah, Noah, Hoglah, Milcah, and Tirzah." So how about naming your daughter Hoglah? And yet, believe it or not, these girls are named four times in the Bible. And these young ladies were ladies who stood up for their father and for their father's inheritance. Now names in the Bible usually were given for a definite reason; they usually depicted the character of the child, or sometimes they reflected the calling and the vocation of the child. And I hope you've noticed that God sovereignly named some children, and some He named even before their birth. If you remember, God also named Samson: "His name shall be called Samson." He also named Solomon. Now the name Solomon was given by David and Bathsheba, but God sent Nathan the prophet to say, "Thou shalt call his name Jedidiah," which means "beloved of the Lord." So God actually named Solomon, but He named him Jedidiah. Then He named John the Baptist, and of course Jesus Christ as well. Likewise, God also sovereignly calls some to their ministry and to their work before they were ever born. For instance, Jeremiah—here you have it in Jeremiah chapter 1 in verses 4 and 5:

Scripture Reading — Jeremiah 1:4-5
"Then the word of the Lord came unto me, saying, Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations."

So God saved, God called, and God sanctified Jeremiah from the womb and sent him as a prophet to the nations. If you would turn in your Bibles very quickly to the book of Luke chapter 1, let's begin reading there at verse 13.

You'll see also how God not only named John the Baptist, but He also set forth his ministry. Notice, if you would, Luke chapter 1, and let's begin reading there with verse 13. Luke 1 and verse 13:

Scripture Reading — Luke 1:13-17
"But the angel said unto him, Fear not, Zacharias: for thy prayer is heard; and thy wife Elisabeth shall bear thee a son, and thou shalt call his name John. And thou shalt have joy and gladness; and many shall rejoice at his birth." "For he shall be great in the sight of the Lord, and shall drink neither wine nor strong drink; and he shall be filled with the Holy Ghost, even from his mother's womb. And many of the children of Israel shall he turn to the Lord their God. And he shall go before him in the spirit and power of Elias, to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the disobedient to the wisdom of the just; to make ready a people prepared for the Lord."

So God didn't only sovereignly name John; He also called him and gave him his ministry as a forerunner of the Lord Jesus Christ.

Now, when the Bible says in Proverbs 22 in verse 1,

Scripture Reading — Ecclesiastes 7:1
"A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches,"

obviously the good name here does not refer to what you and I would call a popular name, or even a name that would represent our calling. A good name in this verse refers to someone that has character, integrity, and someone who has a good testimony. God places a good name far above great riches. Now, I want you to note it again. He said,

Scripture Reading — Ecclesiastes 7:1
"A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving kindness rather than silver and gold."

There's another passage that refers to a good name in Ecclesiastes chapter 7 and verse 1. I want you to listen to this one:

Scripture Reading — Ecclesiastes 7:1
"A good name is better than precious ointment; and the day of death than the day of one's birth."

But he said,

Scripture Reading — Ecclesiastes 7:1
"A good name is better than precious ointment."

Let me show you—turn in your Bibles, if you would, to the book of John chapter 12. John chapter 12, and let's begin reading there with verse 3. John 12 and verse 3.

Since he said, "A good name is rather to be chosen than precious ointment," let me just try to show you the preciousness of ointment. So in John chapter 12, beginning there with verse 3, look what the Bible says. John 12 verse 3:

Scripture Reading — John 12:3-6
"Then took Mary a pound of ointment of spikenard, very costly, and anointed the feet of Jesus, and wiped his feet with her hair: and the house was filled with the odor of the ointment. Then saith one of his disciples, Judas Iscariot, Simon's son, which should betray him, Why was not this ointment sold for three hundred pence, and given to the poor?"

Now look at verse 6:

Scripture Reading — John 12:3-6
"This he said, not that he cared for the poor; but because he was a thief, and had the bag, and bare what was put therein."

But I want you to note the question:

Scripture Reading — John 12:3-6
"Why was not this ointment sold for three hundred pence, and given to the poor?"

If you were to go—you don't have to turn there—but if you were to turn to Matthew chapter 20 and verse 2, you would see that the average pay was a penny a day.

Defining a Good Name

Weaver explains that a good name in Proverbs 22:1 refers to character, integrity, and testimony, not popularity. He connects it to Ecclesiastes 7:1 and the precious ointment in John 12, emphasizing that a name is a monument and reputation.

Now, when the Bible says in Proverbs 22 in verse 1,

Scripture Reading — Ecclesiastes 7:1
"A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches,"

obviously the good name here does not refer to what you and I would call a popular name, or even a name that would represent our calling. A good name in this verse refers to someone that has character, integrity, and someone who has a good testimony. God places a good name far above great riches. Now, I want you to note it again. He said,

Scripture Reading — Ecclesiastes 7:1
"A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving kindness rather than silver and gold."

There's another passage that refers to a good name in Ecclesiastes chapter 7 and verse 1. I want you to listen to this one:

Scripture Reading — Ecclesiastes 7:1
"A good name is better than precious ointment; and the day of death than the day of one's birth."

But he said,

Scripture Reading — Ecclesiastes 7:1
"A good name is better than precious ointment."

Let me show you—turn in your Bibles, if you would, to the book of John chapter 12. John chapter 12, and let's begin reading there with verse 3. John 12 and verse 3.

Since he said, "A good name is rather to be chosen than precious ointment," let me just try to show you the preciousness of ointment. So in John chapter 12, beginning there with verse 3, look what the Bible says. John 12 verse 3:

Scripture Reading — John 12:3-6
"Then took Mary a pound of ointment of spikenard, very costly, and anointed the feet of Jesus, and wiped his feet with her hair: and the house was filled with the odor of the ointment. Then saith one of his disciples, Judas Iscariot, Simon's son, which should betray him, Why was not this ointment sold for three hundred pence, and given to the poor?"

Now look at verse 6:

Scripture Reading — John 12:3-6
"This he said, not that he cared for the poor; but because he was a thief, and had the bag, and bare what was put therein."

But I want you to note the question:

Scripture Reading — John 12:3-6
"Why was not this ointment sold for three hundred pence, and given to the poor?"

If you were to go—you don't have to turn there—but if you were to turn to Matthew chapter 20 and verse 2, you would see that the average pay was a penny a day.

So three hundred pence, or three hundred pennies, would be nearly a year's wages. So here this ointment was worth three hundred pence. So amazingly, it was very, very expensive, that is for sure. Now when the Bible says a good name is more to be desired than great riches, the word "name" happens to be the word "shem." And the word "shem" literally means a name, a reputation, a glory, a memorial, and a monument. So let me just put it to you very plainly. Here's what the Bible is telling us: that your name is your monument. Your name is your memorial. Your name is your reputation and your testimony. Now some try to distinguish between reputation and character.

And they say something like this: reputation is what people think you are, but character is what you really are. But in this sense, the word having a good name is also including having a good reputation or a good testimony. So here's my question: Do you value your name? What is your name worth? What estimate do you place upon your name? What estimate do others place upon your name?

The Worth of a Name: Robert E. Lee's Example

Weaver recounts how General Robert E. Lee refused a lucrative offer to use his name for an insurance company, stating his good name was not for sale, valuing it above money.

And you know what thoughts or feelings arise when you hear the name David or the name Jesus. Now, interestingly enough, there have been godly people that greatly valued their name. One of those individuals was General Robert E. Lee. After the war, General Lee, in 1865, went to take the presidency of Washington College. Now, at Washington College, they were going to offer him, and they did offer him, $1,500 a year as his salary.

Now, you've got to remember, everything had been devastated. No one had anything. The college at that time was floundering, and the college really did not have very much money. And so while Lee was there, there was an insurance executive came and offered him $10,000 to become president of his insurance company. General Lee told the agent that he was compelled by the Lord to accept the position at Washington College, and he believed that if he were to undertake the presidency of the insurance company, that it would minimize his efforts at the college, and therefore, he would have to turn him down. The insurance executive said, "But General, we do not want you to discharge any duties. We simply want to use your name, and that will abundantly compensate us." Lee replied, "Excuse me, sir.

I cannot consent to receive pay for services that I do not render. My good name is about all that I've saved from the wreck of this war, and that is not for sale." Now, I want you to pause with me and think about this. Although Lee accepted his position at Washington College at $1,500 per year—which by the way, the college actually became Washington and Lee University afterwards—the college was impoverished, Lee's workload was immense, but Lee chose Washington College because he believed the Lord had led him there particularly. Now remember, the college was supposed to pay him $1,500 a year. Robert E. Lee's starting salary as president of Washington College in 1865 is documented in a cash book kept by Lee himself. According to this book, Lee's salary as president of Washington College was recorded as $169 on October the 14th, 1865. Below in this snippet, this receipt is for the salary of Robert E. Lee for his services at Washington College for $169. It was created by Washington College treasurer James K. Edmondson. Additionally, another receipt dated January 25, 1866 shows Lee's salary at $256. Do you realize when Lee turned down $10,000—and that would have been an awful lot of money back then—he turned down approximately seven times what he was getting at Washington College?

In other words, his good name meant more to him than money. Do you understand that many people are willing to sell their names? And unhappily, most people are willing to sell their names very cheaply. They will sell their names for the satisfaction of their flesh, for pride, for control, for impatience or temper, or any other thing. You know the fifth commandment occurs twice in the Old Testament. The first time in Exodus chapter 20 in verse 12:

Scripture Reading — Exodus 20:12
"Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee."
Scripture Reading — Exodus 20:12
"Honour thy father and thy mother, as the Lord thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee."

Interestingly enough, the fifth commandment is repeated at least eight times in the New Testament.

How We Destroy Our Good Name

Weaver warns that many sell their names cheaply through immorality, pride, temper, and debt. He cites Proverbs 5 and Psalm 7 to show how sin lays honor in the dust, and emphasizes that a good name can be destroyed overnight but not quickly regained.

In other words, his good name meant more to him than money. Do you understand that many people are willing to sell their names? And unhappily, most people are willing to sell their names very cheaply. They will sell their names for the satisfaction of their flesh, for pride, for control, for impatience or temper, or any other thing. You know the fifth commandment occurs twice in the Old Testament. The first time in Exodus chapter 20 in verse 12:

Scripture Reading — Exodus 20:12
"Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee."
Scripture Reading — Exodus 20:12
"Honour thy father and thy mother, as the Lord thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee."

Interestingly enough, the fifth commandment is repeated at least eight times in the New Testament.

Now, I want you to think with me. "Honour thy father and thy mother." Hmm. I took the time to look up the very first time the word "honour" is used in the Bible, and it's very surprising. You remember that Jacob was supposed to be back where his father Isaac had land, but he stopped in Shechem and he bought some land. And it was while he was in Shechem then that his daughter Dinah was raped by the prince, and of course the father Hamor was there. And so the young prince was really taken with Dinah, and he goes and talks to Jacob and all the boys, and he says, "I'll give you any dowry; you will just let me have this woman for a wife." And of course, what the brothers did was just kind of deceive them.

Scripture Reading — Genesis 49:6
They said, "Far be it from us. We cannot give our daughter to one who is uncircumcised. But if you circumcise all the men, we will trade with you and we'll give you our daughters and we'll take your daughters," and this kind of stuff. Well, they only had one daughter. And so the men agreed to be circumcised. Then on the third day, when all the men were too sore to move, Simeon and Levi went in and slew Shechem and his father Hamor and all the men, and stole all the cattle and all the goods and left. In light of that, in Genesis 49 in verse 6, here's what Jacob said.

Listen: "O my soul, come not thou into their secret; unto their assembly, mine honour, be not thou united: for in their anger they slew a man, and in their selfwill they digged down a wall." Notice what he said: "I do not want my honour to be united with their name." I deny those actions. I deny what they did. Jacob just simply did not wish that his name be connected with what the sons did. Do you realize that we dishonor our family when we sin and when we rebel and when we're wicked and when we're wrong? Let me ask you a question. Have you ever been ashamed of the conduct of your children? Have your parents ever been ashamed of your conduct? Are you now, even as an adult, concerned with a good name? So here's the question: Do you have a good name when it comes to morality? Are you pure? Have you kept yourself for your husband or your wife? You have to understand that we are now living in a day of sexual impurity where holiness and faithfulness are not only laughed at, but they're actually despised. And yet God has commanded us to be holy and to be pure.

I always recommend that every young man, every middle-aged man, and every old man read constantly Proverbs 5, 6, and 7. But I want you to turn to Proverbs chapter 5 if you would, or Proverbs 7. Let's go to 7. I want to show you—we'll go to Proverbs 5, we'll go there. I'll leave the other. But look in Proverbs chapter 5 and let's begin reading there with verse 7. Look what God says. I want you to note this. Proverbs 5 verse 7: "Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth."

"Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house:" that is, from the prostitute or the loose woman. Why? Look at this: "Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel: Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger; And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed, And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof; And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me!" What did he say? "Lest thou give thine honour unto others."

There have been many men, yea, preachers, pastors, evangelists, missionaries, who've fallen into the trap of lust and desire. They've lost their honor and they've sold their good name for a few moments of pleasure. Now, if you will turn back in your Bibles very quickly to Psalm 7, I want you to note this prayer of David. He's praying. Look what he says in verses 4 and 5. Psalm 7 verses 4 and 5: He says, "If I have rewarded evil unto him that was at peace with me; (yea, I have delivered him that without cause is mine enemy:)" in other words, if I've sinned, if I've done something wicked and wrong, "Let the enemy persecute my soul, and take it; yea, let him tread down my life upon the earth, and lay mine honour in the dust." So here's what David is saying: If I do wrong, I am laying my honor in the dust. I deserve to have my honor laid in the dust. So here's the thing: It's one thing for your enemy to lay your honor in the dust because he's stronger than you, more powerful than you. But it's quite another thing for you to be so stupid and so wicked that you willingly lay your honor and your good name down in the dust.

That's what he's saying. So, we have to return to honor. Everybody asks, what in the world is wrong with this society today? Do you realize honor, integrity, and a good name was what held societies together in times past? When you have no honor, when you have no integrity, when you have no good name, then clearly, obviously, society is going to fall apart.

Now, the Bible says in Proverbs chapter 11 and verse 16,

Scripture Reading — Proverbs 11:16
"A gracious woman retaineth honour: and strong men retain riches."

A gracious woman retaineth honour. And then God also says in Proverbs 31 in verse 25 that a gracious woman is clothed with strength and honour. He says, "Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come." Now since you're in the Psalms, I want you to turn over to Psalm 49. Psalm 49, look at verse 12. Look at what God says about men who do not hold to honor. Psalm 49 in verse 12: He says this: "Nevertheless man being in honour abideth not: he is like the beasts that perish." That is, he leaves it, he slips from it. He said when you throw away your honor, you're dumber than a beast. No, no, he says you do not throw away your honor. So the loss of honor is catastrophic. You may design—listen, write this down.

Make sure you understand this. You may destroy a good name overnight, but you cannot get a good name back overnight. You may destroy a testimony overnight, but you cannot regain a good testimony overnight. Sadly, when many destroy their good names, at the same time, they're destroying the good names of other people as well. Wow. God said in Ecclesiastes chapter 10 in verse 1,

Scripture Reading — Ecclesiastes 10:1
"Dead flies cause the ointment of the apothecary to send forth a stinking savour."

Listen now:

Scripture Reading — Ecclesiastes 10:1
"So doth a little folly him that is in reputation for wisdom and honour."

So if a man has wisdom and a man has honor, he's not to be given to folly. He's not to be given to that which is absolutely stupid. So many times we've destroyed our good name through immorality, through being fleshly and desire-oriented. Here's another good way, an easy way to destroy our good names, and that's in relationship to economics and particularly to money. So I could ask you this question.

Do you pay your debts? Do you pay your debts on time? I could also ask another question: Why are you even in debt? Romans chapter 13 in verse 8, the Bible says,

Scripture Reading — Romans 13:8
"Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law."

Owe no man anything. Many professing Christians find themselves in debt up to their eyeballs. We are a debt-oriented society. We've lost our self-discipline, we've lost our self-control, we've lost our self-respect. And everywhere you go you see signs—I see them on the furniture stores: "Charge it now, pay later." Wow. You know what the Bible says in Proverbs chapter 22 in verse 7? Need to write this one down, you need to memorize this one: "The rich ruleth over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender." The word "servant" is the Hebrew word "ebed," which is also translated as "slave." The borrower is slave to the lender. So the man in debt is not free. The man in debt is a slave.

The Danger of Debt and Unbiblical Visions

Weaver teaches that debt makes one a slave (Proverbs 22:7) and criticizes churches and pastors who incur debt for unbiblical visions, arguing that if God ordains it, He will pay for it.

Do you pay your debts? Do you pay your debts on time? I could also ask another question: Why are you even in debt? Romans chapter 13 in verse 8, the Bible says,

Scripture Reading — Romans 13:8
"Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law."

Owe no man anything. Many professing Christians find themselves in debt up to their eyeballs. We are a debt-oriented society. We've lost our self-discipline, we've lost our self-control, we've lost our self-respect. And everywhere you go you see signs—I see them on the furniture stores: "Charge it now, pay later." Wow. You know what the Bible says in Proverbs chapter 22 in verse 7? Need to write this one down, you need to memorize this one: "The rich ruleth over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender." The word "servant" is the Hebrew word "ebed," which is also translated as "slave." The borrower is slave to the lender. So the man in debt is not free. The man in debt is a slave.

So if I went up to Clay and I said, "Clay, I need to borrow a thousand bucks." Clay said, "All right, I'll let you have a thousand bucks, but I need it back within 30 days." Guess what? I'm now his slave. Whatever I work for, I'm working to pay him back. I'm not working for myself. And this is where interest comes in. When people begin to charge interest, you're paying money on that which is not money. There's not enough paper in the world to pay off supposedly the national debt. Do you understand the borrower is servant or slave to the lender? And the sad thing is—most people—and let me just deal with preachers and pastors.

Most preachers and pastors are not only in debt themselves, but they bring their church into debt as well. Because what every preacher wants is a huge edifice and all the trinkets that go with that edifice. Wow. Well, guess what? Usually they start out something like this: "I have a vision." But it's not a biblical vision. "But my vision requires faith." That's true, but it's not a biblical faith. What it requires is a faith based upon their vision. I had one man tell me, who's a preacher and a dear friend of mine,

that he envisioned 300 more people being converted in this little town that he was pastoring in the coming year. I just laughed. I said, "I don't care what you envision. I said, you're not going to reach any more than God can save. And number one, there's not enough people in this town to give you 300." You understand what I'm saying? So, so what we do, we build a big building and we go in debt and we have this mortgage that has to be paid off. Now, if you do a little bit of studying on the word "mortgage," you will find it's related to the word "mortician." Because the first use of that word was actually brought around in 1350 to 1400.

And it comes from two words: "mort," which means dead, and "gage," which means pledge. So your mortgage is a dead pledge. In other words, you pay it till you die. You pledge yourself to death is what it amounts to. That's what the word actually means. So here's a good principle for you and I to go by: If God ordains it, God will pay for it. If God orders it, God will pay for it.

If God does not order it, if God does not ordain it, then clearly it's going to fail and it's going to lead to destruction. Sometime back I was asked to pastor a church here in Florida. I told them, I said, "I'll be happy to preach for you, but I'm sure I'm not interested in pastoring the church." "Well, we want you to come." And I went, and I preached that morning and I preached that night. You talking about a building—Lord have mercy. They had a huge edifice. They had a gymnasium. They had a Christian school. They had all kind of things. So after service they wanted to talk to me and they wanted me to consider coming to be their pastor. I said, "Well, let me ask you a couple of questions. Number one,

are you in debt on this property?" "Oh, yes. Oh, yes." "Well, how much are you in debt?" Well, I forget the exact figure, but it was a couple of million. And I said, "Well, I don't even think a church needs to be in debt or supposed to be in debt. And I said, I can't come as your pastor, and I will tell you why. I said, because when I start preaching, folks are going to get mad. And they're going to either leave or they're going to quit giving. And then you can't meet your sinking fund payments. And then you're going to get upset with me. And then you're going to run me off." I said, "So really and truly, what you need to do is find someone who can go along with your philosophy of debt, because I don't go." And the sad thing is, I knew personally there were a number of multimillionaires in that church that could easily have paid off that mortgage

and had plenty left over. I'm just simply pointing out the fact, usually when people and preachers especially do this, they drag themselves down and they drag others down with them. So, a good name is necessary in the ministry. One may not have many talents. One may not be a great orator. One may not be a great expositor. But if he has a good name, if he has a good testimony and a good reputation, some of those other things can be easily overlooked.

Strife, Contention, and the Loss of Honor

Weaver addresses how Christians and pastors damage their names through strife and name-calling over doctrinal disagreements, particularly eschatology. He urges cessation of strife as an honor (Proverbs 20:3) and calls for directing energy against the common enemy.

So what we've done today in Christendom is we've failed to instruct, we've failed to rebuke, we've failed to reprove. So here's what's happening. I want you to watch this. I'm going to give you a good illustration. So let's suppose Ron does something very stupid. You know what the average Christians do when Ron is messed up? Laugh at him. Make fun of him. How many go to him and say, "Ron, let me show you from the Bible what you've done and how to correct it."

"Let me pray with you. Let me help you. Let me guide you. Let me do whatever I can to bring you out of this mess." No, we don't do that. We're kind of like chickens who start pecking another chicken, and they keep pecking until they draw blood. Then once they get the taste of blood, they keep pecking till they kill the poor chicken. Christians are about the only ones who slay their walking wounded. We don't go to them, try to recover them. We don't go to them and try to bring them back. We just simply ignore them and go on our merry way. Now look, if you would, at all the strife, all the contention that you're seeing not just in Christendom in general, but in every church. And let me ask you a question. Why is it so difficult to just do what God commands? Why is it so difficult just to be biblical and to do that which is right? It seems today, especially true of preachers, but Christians as well, that we cannot stand anyone who disagrees with us.

If anyone does not see our point of view and does not agree with our point of view, we're ready and willing and eager to cast them into the ditch. Wow. You know why? We don't understand the biblical doctrine of illumination. God does not give the same truth or the same amount of truth at the same time to everyone. And I could preach to you until I die, but if God does not open your eyes, you're never, ever going to see the truth. Paul told Timothy, "Consider what I say; and the Lord give thee understanding in all things." Now, understanding is God's gift. But notice he said, "Consider what I say." That's personal responsibility.

So let me just show you another thing. If I study my Bible five hours a day, Steve studies his Bible ten minutes a day, who's gonna have the most knowledge? You see what I'm saying? God uses means. "Consider what I say, and the Lord give thee understanding in all things." So the man that does more consideration, more meditation, more research, he's gonna understand far more than the man who just reads a chapter and goes on about his way. So why should I get mad and upset if Clay doesn't agree with me? When if God doesn't open his eyes, he's never going to see the truth anyhow. If God doesn't open my eyes, if he's right, I'll never see the truth. You see what I'm saying? So I want you to notice all the strife. But here's what we do. We just start calling each other names. We use sarcasm. We use slurs. We use innuendos. We have forgotten that Moses and Aaron got into trouble with God just for calling God's people rebels. Do you remember when Moses first had to draw water out of that rock? God told him to strike the rock. And he smote the rock and the water came out. Remember that rock was Christ according to 1 Corinthians chapter 10. The second time God told Moses to speak to the rock. Didn't have to smite it, just speak to it. But Moses in anger and indignation smote the rock again. Listen to what he said: Numbers 20 in verse 10:

Scripture Reading — Numbers 20:10
"And Moses and Aaron gathered the congregation together before the rock, and he said unto them, Hear now, ye rebels; must we fetch you water out of this rock?"

And he smote the rock. That's why Moses never got into the promised land, nor Aaron. Now the point I'm trying to make is, usually we disagree on eschatology—that's the doctrine of the last things. When you look at eschatology, there are four main positions. And, of course, I understand there are variations in these four positions. I understand that. But there's historic premillennialism, there's dispensational premillennialism, there's amillennialism, and there's postmillennialism. The interesting thing: all four of these positions believe that Jesus Christ is coming back literally, visibly, and bodily. They just disagree on when and how. Now if I believe that Jesus Christ is coming back literally, visibly, and bodily, and I just disagree with you about the time and the way He's coming back, what difference does that make?

Now, I realize your eschatology determines your lifestyle and your worldview. I understand that. Eschatology is important. But the point I'm trying to make right now: we overlook the main thing, that we each believe that Jesus Christ is coming back literally, visibly, and bodily. And we say, "If you don't agree with me, you're wrong. I don't even want to see you anymore." And we just run everybody off. Wow. Here's a good one.

And I got this from Gary DeMar. Hal Lindsey, of course, is a dispensational premillennialist, and he wrote a book, and he said that everyone who did not agree with him were unconsciously anti-Semitic. Now listen, I'm quoting: "Hal Lindsey labeled anyone who did not agree with him on the issue of eschatology as unconsciously anti-Semitic. Lies and slander will accomplish nothing. We pursued all the means at our disposal to meet with Hal Lindsey over the anti-Semitism charges he made in his poorly researched book, The Road to Holocaust, and directed against amillennialists, historic premillennialists, postmillennialists, and especially Christian reconstructionists. He would not meet with us. We were told that Lindsey is not interested in talking about it."

His basic word is, "Write a book in response if you don't like it." Wow. Wow. Do you realize if you want to upset people and have them against you, all you have to do is call someone a racist, call someone an anti-Semite. And I will tell you right now, the greatest anti-Semites are those who reject Jesus Christ, because Jesus Christ is the true Shem. Remember the word "name"? The word "Shem" means name. He's the one that's been named by God particularly. So anyone who's against Jesus Christ is anti-Semitic. Not someone against Zionism. In fact, there are Jews that are against Zionists. I'm just simply saying it's astounding how we can label anyone and everyone a derogatory term just simply because they disagree with us. Right now, there is an ongoing spat, fight, division, name-calling, strife, and contention between Bible-believing Presbyterians. They're attacking each other. Pastors are attacking pastors. I know some of them; some of them are my friends. But the Baptists do exactly the same thing. You know what the Bible says in Proverbs chapter 20 in verse 3? "It is an honour for a man to cease from strife: but every fool will be meddling." It's an honor for a man to cease from strife. The word "strife" is the Hebrew word "rib," which refers to a quarrel, a dispute, or controversy. God said it's an honor for a man to not fuss and not fight and not engage in controversies needlessly. Now closely connected with strife is the word "contention," and the Hebrew word is "matstsah," and it is translated in our Bibles as "strife" and "contentions." Let me give you some quotes.

Proverbs 13 in verse 10: "Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom." Only by pride cometh contention. So what is the pride of heart? Do well, brother Clay. If you don't agree with me, if you don't see what I say, I just—I'm not gonna have anything to do with you. That's pride. That's pride. Proverbs 17 verse 14, I love this one: "The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention, before it be meddled with." The beginning of strife is when one letteth out water.

Now, in our bathroom, Alice and I have one of those old clawfoot tubs. And I love that old tub. I don't mind a hot shower—we have a shower too—but there's nothing like soaking, laying back in that old clawfoot tub. But you know what? When you get ready to let the water out and you pull the plug, the water starts swirling, and pretty soon it gets going faster and faster. And the next thing you hear is something like this. God said, "Now if you don't hear that, put the plug back in it."

Listen to what he said: "The beginning of strife is when one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention." Quit fighting about it, and it'll go away. Wow. Proverbs 18, verse 6: "A fool's lips enter into contention, and his mouth calleth for strokes." And then Proverbs 22 in verse 10: "Cast out the scorner, and contention shall go out; yea, strife and reproach shall cease." As well, if believers and pastors would quit fighting each other and direct all of our energies toward our common enemy, it would not be long before we were victorious. But the truth of the matter, as long as we're divided and as long as we're fighting each other, we are easy prey and we're easily defeated. Moreover, if we've lost our good name in it, no one's going to listen to us anyhow. I know of preachers who built great works, but they lost their good name, and the works crumbled. I understand another truth. I understand that not everyone is pleasant. Not everyone is agreeable. I have known some people, Christians as well as preachers, who just were not happy unless they were fighting. They live for a fight. They live for a fuss.

Restoring a Good Name Through Repentance and Reconciliation

Weaver prescribes repentance, obedience, and biblical reconciliation (Matthew 5:23-24; 18:15) to recover a good name. He stresses personal responsibility to make things right, even if the other party is at fault.

If we've lost our good name, if our name and our honor has been drug through the mud, if we've dishonored this name, how do we get it back? The answer is very simple: through repentance and obedience. We must not only turn from that which is wicked and wrong, but we must reach out to those individuals whom we have hurt, disappointed, and offended in a biblical sense. We must learn to apologize, ask forgiveness, make restitution, and seek reconciliation by biblical means. If we don't, we'll never recover our good name.

Now I want you to turn in your Bibles to two passages. Look in Matthew chapter 5 to begin with, then we're going to go to Matthew 18. But look at Matthew chapter 5 and notice verses 23 and 24. Matthew 5 verse 23: God says, "Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift." So, watch this: "Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee."

Now I don't have anything against Ron. But Ron has something against me. I might have thought he was silly for holding it, but he has something against me. So God says if I go to worship Him and I remember that Ron has something against me, what am I to do? Leave my gift and go and be reconciled to him, and then come back and offer. In other words, even though I have nothing against Ron, I know that Ron has something against me. It's still my responsibility to make it right. So if you look in Matthew chapter 18, look at this: Matthew 18 and verse 15. Matthew 18 verse 15: "Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother." Now, wait a minute. This time, Ron doesn't have anything against me.

I've got something against him. Now, what does God say? God says I am to go to him privately and work it out. And if he'll hear me, I've gained my brother.

Now, there's not any limits set on this. It may take me two or three times before he'd be willing to reconcile. And if he's not, then I have the option of taking witnesses. And if he won't hear the witnesses, I have the option of taking him before the church. But here's the point I'm trying to make: Regardless of who is at fault, it's your responsibility to resolve it.

So, if Ronnie and I really have a problem, whether or not I have something against him or he has something against me, what really should happen is we should be meeting each other, saying, "Let's get this thing settled. Let's make this thing right." That's how it really should work out. Now, if someone refuses, after all of this, to make things right and to reconcile, then the only thing you can do is say, "Lord, I've obeyed. I've done what you've told me to do. I've tried. I've endeavored." "I'm just now leaving this into your hand. And you have to work in that person's heart." That's all you can do. You've done your duty, your obligation, your responsibility before God. Now just leave it in His hands.

Applications and the Ultimate Good Name of Jesus

Weaver applies the message by urging believers to maintain honor, citing Samuel's example. He closes by exalting the name of Jesus as the highest name, given by the Father, and encourages believers to maintain their good name as a monument.

Now, let me make some applications because we want a good name. We may easily destroy our lives, our families, and our churches and our ministries by tarnishing our testimony, by losing our good name, and by refusing to forgive and to reconcile. I personally know men that supposedly have been called to preach and proclaim the good news of the gospel of Jesus Christ. And in their wake, all they have left is a trail of desolation and destruction. You must remember what I said earlier. If I cannot trust you, I cannot believe you. And if I cannot believe you, I cannot listen to you. One may easily destroy years of ministry by foolish and stupid and wicked acts. When we fail to maintain our honor, when we fail to maintain a good name, we're destroying our own ministry. Psalm 49 verse 20: "Man that is in honour, and understandeth not, is like the beasts that perish." You're in honor. You've got a good name, but you really don't understand. God says you're dumber than a beast if you throw away your good name. In Proverbs 21 in verse 21, the Bible says, "He that followeth after righteousness and mercy findeth life, righteousness, and honour." God is only going to honor those that honor Him. You were to read 1 Samuel chapter 2 in verse 30, where God was turning Eli out to pasture, so to speak. God ended up telling Eli, "I will honour them that honour me, and they that despise me shall be lightly esteemed." So God is not going to honor someone who refuses to recover

his name, who refuses to live a life of honor. God's going to honor those that honor Him. Now, here we go. You may destroy a good name overnight, but you cannot reclaim a good name overnight. My position has always been I want to be like Samuel. And I want to read it to you from 1 Samuel 12, verses 2 through 5. Samuel says, "And now, behold, the king walketh before you: and I am old and grayheaded; and, behold, my sons are with you: and I have walked before you from my childhood unto this day. Behold, here I am: witness against me before the Lord, and before his anointed: whose ox have I taken? or whose ass have I taken?"

"Or whom have I defrauded? whom have I oppressed? or of whose hand have I received any bribe to blind mine eyes therewith? and I will restore it you." And they said, "Thou hast not defrauded us, nor oppressed us, neither hast thou taken ought of any man's hand." And he said, "The Lord is witness against you this day." What did he say? If I've done wrong, tell me. I'll make it right. I'll restore what I need to restore. I'll reconcile what needs reconciling. This is why God said a good name is rather to be chosen than great riches. This is why God said a good name is better than precious ointment. Now, I want you to think about a good name. I told you what the word "shem" meant: a monument, a memorial, a name, whatever's wrapped up in the name. I want to give you a quote in closing by Charles Haddon Spurgeon, and he's talking about the name Jesus. He said, "C.H. Spurgeon explained that since the Father knew His Son perfectly when He required Him to be named Jesus, this was the most divinely appropriate name. Rest assured, therefore, that this is the best name that He could bear. God would not have given Him a name of secondary value or about which there would be a trace of dishonor. The name is the highest, brightest, and noblest of names. It is the glory of our Lord to be a Savior, Jesus." That's what the word Jesus means. Jesus is the most appropriate name that our Lord could receive.

"Of this we are quite certain. For the Father knew all about Him and could name Him well. He knows much more about the Lord Christ than all the saints and angels put together. For no man knoweth the Son, but the Father. Since infinite wisdom has selected it, we may be sure that it is a name which must be true and must be verified by facts of no mean order. When we plead the name of Jesus before God, we bring Him back to His own word and appeal to Him by His own act and deed. It is not the name of Jesus to be viewed with reverential delight by each one of us when we recollect whence the name came." So you just remember, when we pray in the name of Jesus Christ, we're praying in the name that God the Father gave Jesus Christ. It is the name which is above every name, that at His name every knee should bow and every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father. And just like Jesus Christ maintained His good name, we need to maintain our good name. Because our name is our monument. Our enemies may

spit upon our name. They may curse our name. But what we want is the Father and His people to say, "There's a man with a good name, an honorable name." We don't expect our enemies to honor our names. But we do expect those who believe to honor our names if we are honorable individuals. A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches. Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, we bow to Thee this day. We thank You for Your Word. We thank You for Your truth. And we ask, Lord, that You would indeed help us. We do pray, Father, for those that have been mentioned earlier and ask Your perfect will to be done there. Give us Your grace, we pray in Christ's name, amen.


Study Guide

Major Themes

The Supreme Value of a Good Name

Summary: A good name, defined as character and integrity, is more desirable than great riches or precious ointment, serving as one's monument and reputation.

Evidence: Proverbs 22:1: 'A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving kindness rather than silver and gold.' Weaver explains that 'name' (shem) means reputation, glory, memorial, monument.

The Danger of Selling One's Name Cheaply

Summary: Many people destroy their good name through immorality, pride, temper, or debt, often for momentary satisfaction, and such loss is catastrophic and not easily recovered.

Evidence: Weaver states: 'Many people are willing to sell their names... very cheaply. They will sell their names for the satisfaction of their flesh, for pride, for control, for impatience or temper.' He cites Proverbs 5:9: 'Lest thou give thine honour unto others.'

The Bondage of Debt

Summary: Debt makes one a slave to the lender, and Christians should avoid it; unbiblical church debt leads to destruction.

Evidence: Proverbs 22:7: 'The borrower is servant to the lender.' Weaver explains 'servant' is 'ebed,' meaning slave. He says, 'If God ordains it, God will pay for it.'

The Destructiveness of Strife and Contention

Summary: Strife among believers, especially over non-essential doctrines, dishonors God and ruins testimonies; it is honorable to cease from strife.

Evidence: Proverbs 20:3: 'It is an honour for a man to cease from strife.' Weaver laments name-calling over eschatology and says, 'If believers and pastors would quit fighting each other and direct all of our energies toward our common enemy, it would not be long before we were victorious.'

Restoration Through Repentance and Reconciliation

Summary: A good name can be recovered through repentance, obedience, and biblical reconciliation, taking responsibility to make things right regardless of fault.

Evidence: Matthew 5:23-24 and 18:15 are cited. Weaver says, 'We must not only turn from that which is wicked and wrong, but we must reach out to those individuals whom we have hurt... We must learn to apologize, ask forgiveness, make restitution, and seek reconciliation.'

The Example of Jesus' Name

Summary: Jesus' name is the ultimate good name, given by the Father, and believers should maintain their names as He did.

Evidence: Weaver quotes Spurgeon on the name Jesus: 'It is the glory of our Lord to be a Savior, Jesus.' He concludes, 'Just like Jesus Christ maintained His good name, we need to maintain our good name.'

Key Arguments

A good name is a monument of character, not popularity.

Summary: The Hebrew word 'shem' means name, reputation, glory, memorial, monument; thus a good name reflects one's true character and testimony.

Evidence: Weaver explains: 'Your name is your monument. Your name is your memorial. Your name is your reputation and your testimony.'

Honor is lost through sin and folly.

Summary: Immorality, pride, and foolish actions cause one to give honor to others and lay it in the dust, as seen in Proverbs 5 and Psalm 7.

Evidence: Proverbs 5:9: 'Lest thou give thine honour unto others.' Psalm 7:5: 'Let the enemy... lay mine honour in the dust.'

Debt is a form of slavery that dishonors one's name.

Summary: Borrowing makes one a slave to the lender, and Christians should avoid debt; church debt often stems from unbiblical visions.

Evidence: Proverbs 22:7: 'The borrower is servant to the lender.' Weaver says, 'The man in debt is not free. The man in debt is a slave.'

Strife among believers destroys testimony and honor.

Summary: Contentions over non-essential doctrines lead to name-calling and division, making Christians easy prey for the enemy.

Evidence: Proverbs 20:3: 'It is an honour for a man to cease from strife.' Weaver says, 'As long as we're divided and as long as we're fighting each other, we are easy prey and we're easily defeated.'

Reconciliation is a personal responsibility.

Summary: Whether one has offended or been offended, Scripture commands taking the initiative to reconcile, as taught in Matthew 5 and 18.

Evidence: Matthew 5:23-24 and 18:15. Weaver says, 'Regardless of who is at fault, it's your responsibility to resolve it.'

A good name is essential for effective ministry.

Summary: Without trust, people will not listen; a minister's good name is foundational to his credibility and influence.

Evidence: Weaver states: 'If I cannot trust you, I cannot believe you. And if I cannot believe you, I'm not going to listen to you.'

Scripture References

Proverbs 22:1

Context: The foundational text for the sermon, stating that a good name is better than riches.

Exodus 1:15

Context: Introduction of Shiphrah and Puah as examples of women of character with good biblical names.

Numbers 26:33

Context: Mention of the daughters of Zelophehad as examples of women who stood for their father's inheritance.

Jeremiah 1:4-5

Context: God's sovereign calling and sanctification of Jeremiah before birth.

Luke 1:13-17

Context: The angel's announcement of John the Baptist's name and ministry.

John 12:3-6

Context: Mary's anointing of Jesus with costly ointment, illustrating the value of precious ointment.

Mark 6:14

Context: The name of Jesus was spread abroad, illustrating the concept of name as reputation.

Exodus 20:12

Context: The fifth commandment to honor parents, connected to honor and a good name.

Deuteronomy 5:16

Context: Repetition of the fifth commandment with promise of well-being.

Genesis 49:6

Context: Jacob's refusal to unite his honor with Simeon and Levi's actions.

Proverbs 5:7-12

Context: Warning against immorality, lest one give honor to others.

Psalm 7:4-5

Context: David's prayer that if he has sinned, his honor be laid in the dust.

Proverbs 31:25

Context: Strength and honor are the clothing of a virtuous woman.

Psalm 49:12, 20

Context: Man in honor who does not understand is like the beasts that perish.

Ecclesiastes 10:1

Context: A little folly destroys the reputation of the wise and honorable.

Romans 13:8

Context: Owe no man anything, except to love one another.

Numbers 20:10

Context: Moses called the people rebels, which contributed to his exclusion from the Promised Land.

Historical References

General Robert E. Lee

Context: Lee refused a $10,000 offer to use his name for an insurance company, stating his good name was not for sale, while serving as president of Washington College for a much smaller salary.

Washington College (later Washington and Lee University)

Context: The college where Lee served as president after the Civil War, documented salary receipts showing he received far less than the insurance offer.

Hal Lindsey and The Road to Holocaust

Context: Weaver cites Gary DeMar's account of Hal Lindsey labeling those who disagreed with his eschatology as unconsciously anti-Semitic, and refusing to discuss the charges.

Charles Haddon Spurgeon

Context: Quoted on the appropriateness and glory of the name Jesus, as the name given by the Father.

Important Quotes

I cannot consent to receive pay for services that I do not render. My good name is about all that I've saved from the wreck of this war, and that is not for sale.

Significance: Illustrates the supreme value of a good name over monetary gain, as exemplified by Robert E. Lee.

You may destroy a good name overnight, but you cannot get a good name back overnight.

Significance: Highlights the fragility of reputation and the difficulty of restoration.

The borrower is servant to the lender.

Significance: Direct quote of Proverbs 22:7 used to emphasize the slavery of debt.

If God ordains it, God will pay for it.

Significance: Principle against incurring debt for unbiblical visions.

It is an honour for a man to cease from strife: but every fool will be meddling.

Significance: Proverbs 20:3 quoted to urge believers to avoid unnecessary disputes.

If I cannot trust you, I cannot believe you. And if I cannot believe you, I'm not going to listen to you.

Significance: Emphasizes the necessity of a good name for effective ministry and influence.

Regardless of who is at fault, it's your responsibility to resolve it.

Significance: Summarizes the biblical mandate for personal initiative in reconciliation.

A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving kindness rather than silver and gold.

Significance: The key verse of the sermon, establishing the theme.

Discussion Questions

What does it mean to have a 'good name' according to Proverbs 22:1, and how does it differ from mere popularity?

Context: Weaver defines a good name as character, integrity, and testimony, not just a popular name.

In what ways do people today 'sell their names cheaply,' and what are the consequences?

Context: Weaver mentions immorality, pride, temper, and debt as ways people destroy their honor.

How does debt relate to one's name and freedom, and what biblical principles should guide our finances?

Context: Weaver teaches that debt makes one a slave and that God's ordination includes provision.

Why is strife among believers so damaging to the church's testimony, and how can we practice the honor of ceasing from strife?

Context: Weaver laments division over non-essentials and calls for unity against the common enemy.

What steps does the Bible prescribe for reconciliation when relationships are broken, and why is personal responsibility emphasized?

Context: Weaver cites Matthew 5:23-24 and 18:15, stressing that we must initiate reconciliation regardless of fault.

How does the example of Samuel challenge us to maintain a good name, and what can we learn from his public integrity?

Context: Weaver references 1 Samuel 12:2-5 where Samuel invites scrutiny of his conduct.

In what ways is the name of Jesus the ultimate good name, and how should that influence our own pursuit of honor?

Context: Weaver closes with Spurgeon's quote on the name Jesus and calls believers to emulate Christ's maintenance of His name.

Applications

Guard your moral purity to protect your good name.

Summary: Avoid immorality and lust, as they cause you to give your honor to others and destroy your testimony.

Evidence: Proverbs 5:9: 'Lest thou give thine honour unto others.' Weaver warns against falling into the trap of lust.

Avoid debt and live within God's provision.

Summary: Do not incur debt, which enslaves you; trust that if God ordains a work, He will provide for it without borrowing.

Evidence: Proverbs 22:7; Weaver says, 'If God ordains it, God will pay for it.'

Cease from strife and pursue peace.

Summary: It is honorable to stop quarreling; avoid contentions over non-essential doctrines and refuse to engage in name-calling.

Evidence: Proverbs 20:3; Weaver says, 'It's an honor for a man to cease from strife.'

Take initiative in reconciliation.

Summary: Whether you have offended or been offended, go to the other person privately to make things right, as commanded in Matthew 5 and 18.

Evidence: Matthew 5:23-24; 18:15. Weaver says, 'Regardless of who is at fault, it's your responsibility to resolve it.'

Maintain integrity like Samuel.

Summary: Live in such a way that you can openly invite scrutiny of your conduct, being willing to make restitution if you have wronged anyone.

Evidence: 1 Samuel 12:2-5; Weaver says, 'If I've done wrong, tell me. I'll make it right.'

Honor God to receive honor.

Summary: God honors those who honor Him; a good name comes from following righteousness and mercy.

Evidence: 1 Samuel 2:30; Proverbs 21:21. Weaver says, 'God is only going to honor those that honor Him.'

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