Proverbs: The Fear of the Lord and Wisdom: The Doctrine of Election

How to Avoid Conflicts 2

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Professor: John Weaver

Subject: Old Testament Studies

Genre: Sermon

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Date: 2011-04-10

Synopsis: John Weaver continues his series on avoiding conflicts between Christians, focusing on the uselessness of arguing over non-essential matters. He emphasizes that practical Christian living flows from sound doctrine, that believers have varying degrees of faith and understanding, and that conflicts arise when strong and weak believers despise or judge one another. The strong must be willing to teach patiently, and the weak must be teachable. Weaver argues that arguing is futile because only God can grant repentance and illumination; understanding is a sovereign gift. He calls for meekness, patience, and charity, reminding listeners that everything they have is received by grace.

[John Weaver] Well, let's open our Bibles, if you would please, today to the book of Romans, Chapter 14 again. Romans, Chapter 14. This is the second message on how to avoid conflicts between Christians. And I want us to read again the first three verses. Romans, Chapter 14. The Word of God says, Him that is weak in the faith receive you, but not to doubtful disputations. For one believeth that he may eat all things, another whose weak eateth herbs. Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not, and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth, for God hath received him." Although this message is entitled, How to Avoid Conflicts Between Christians, there is also a subtitle today, and that is, The Uselessness and Worthlessness in Arguing.

[John Weaver] You will understand that as we continue. Of course, we looked last week at Romans 14 in verse 1, him that is weak in the faith receive you, but not to doubtful disputations. And I want to point out by way of review one of the leading principles that I enunciated last week, and that is this, that practical Christian living is a result of sound doctrinal teaching. You cannot live what you do not know, what you do not understand, and what you do not believe.

[John Weaver] Practice and application are always built upon doctrine, and it should be painfully evident to each of us That one of the main reasons there are so many unbiblical attitudes and unbiblical actions among Christians is that there is a dearth of biblical doctrine being taught and being presented. We also learn from verse one that there are degrees of faith. There's a weak faith. There's a strong faith. There's a little faith. There's a great faith. You remember, even our Lord looked at his disciples and said, Oh, you little faith. And then again, he said he had not seen so great a faith a little bit later on. So there are varying degrees of faith. There's a weak and strong and everything in between. And in 1 John 2, John distinguishes at least three degrees.

[John Weaver] He talks about young children or babes and young men and fathers. And of course, very obviously, we have to understand that not every believer is on the same level in understanding or in the application of doctrine. And since there are these varying degrees and varying levels of understanding, then conflicts between weak and strong believers are inevitably going to arise. It's also, I believe, critical for us to remember that A believer is still a believer. He may be a weak believer. He may be a strong believer.

[John Weaver] But saving faith is indeed saving faith. It is our faith in Jesus Christ, in His person, and finished work that saves us, and not the degree of our faith. Therefore, we are called upon, in Romans chapter 14, to receive the weak brethren as they really are, that is, real brothers in Christ. So we have to receive them in the bonds of friendship, fellowship, and ministry. And we do not receive them to bicker and to argue and to cause contentions. No, we receive them that we might minister to them and help them and teach them. In fact, Scripture says we are not to receive them to doubtful disputations.

[John Weaver] In other words, there should be no fighting and no arguing. Now, what I want to do today is to take the time to demonstrate from Scripture Why it does absolutely no good to fuss and fight and harangue someone because of their beliefs or their lack thereof. One thing I want you to keep in mind while I'm teaching today, and that is this. We are now talking about fellow believers. Okay? We're not talking about the ungodly. We're talking about fellow believers. I'm not referring to someone who denies the deity of Christ, or the death, burial, and resurrection of Christ, or the inspiration of scriptures. I'm not talking about unbelievers. True, it does no good to argue with them either.

[John Weaver] However, with an unbeliever, if they continue to refuse the truth, we may reject them. Because the Bible says in Titus 3, verse 10, He that is a heretic, after the first and second admonition, reject. However, a great amount of what I'm going to say today toward believers could also be applied to unbelievers as well, but I'm only dealing with the subject of believers today. So, another thing that should be emphasized is this. I'm dealing with that which is known as indifferent. There are things that are considered the adiaphora, or the indifferent things in the scripture. That is, where there is no clear teaching in the scripture, and each man's conscience has been taught differently. We're not talking about clear violations of scripture. Because if there is a clear violation of scripture, there are too many other passages that command us to rebuke and reprove and to admonish and to warn, so I'm not talking about clear violations of scripture. What I'm talking about today is what you and I would call hang-ups, idiosyncrasies, ignorance, past influence and habits.

[John Weaver] And the two things that the Apostle Paul singled out in Romans chapter 14 are meets and dates. There have been, may have been, many other things the Roman church that caused these conflicts as well. But Paul singled out these two. Likewise, today there may be many varying and different subjects that caused the conflicts. However, usually you're going to find that the majority of conflicts, not only in the New Testament time, but even in our time, stem from a misunderstanding of the ceremonies and the feasts special needs, special days, those things still arise today. Consequently, since there is a difference of opinion on some of those things, there is going to be an occasion for conflicts.

[John Weaver] Now, look very carefully at verses 2 and 3. The Apostle Paul says in Romans 14, verse 2, For one believeth that he may eat all things, another who is weak eateth herbs. Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not, and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth, for God hath received him."

[John Weaver] Now, I'm going to be commenting more on these verses next week than I am today. But I want you to note, just on the surface of these two verses, it is the strong brother that enjoys the most of God's creation. It is the weak brother that enjoys the least of God's creation. It's also important for you to note that the tendency of someone who is strong in the faith is to despise, condemn, and belittle someone who is weak in the faith. Because someone who is strong in the faith is going to say, oh come on, grow up. And it is the tendency of the one who is weak in the faith to judge the strong by saying something like this.

[John Weaver] I'll see how you can do that and call yourself a Christian. So whenever you have two groups together or two individuals together, and one has a natural tendency to condemn, and are criticized and belittled, and the other has the natural tendency to judge and to be quick in that judgment, then very obviously you're going to have conflicts as well. You're going to have disputations, you're going to have arguments, you're going to have quarrels, and they're going to quickly arise because you're going to find that both the strong and the weak have opposing views, and they're going to be quick to let you know what their views are.

[John Weaver] And they would usually tell you in no uncertain terms. And that will always then lead to conflicts. So conflicts arose then in the time of the Apostle Paul, and most of the time it was over these ceremonial laws. Some of these people believed that because the meat had been offered to an idol, that somehow that meat had become contaminated. And therefore it was unfit for consumption. And some believe that with such ferocity, that in order to make sure that they did not eat any meat at all that had been offered to idols, they became vegetarians.

[John Weaver] That's why he said, one eateth only herbs. So here you have these two groups. By the way, Just as a sidelight, I had someone give me a t-shirt. You know what it's going to say? It said vegetarian. Another name for the village idiot who cannot hunt or fish. But there are some individuals that are vegetarian, of course, by choice. But here, it was not necessarily that they just chose to be a vegetarian. They chose to be that, but because they thought that somehow all this meat happened to be contaminated because it might have been offered to an idol.

[John Weaver] Now, it is true Once you begin reading Romans 14 and 1 Corinthians 8, which we will get into more next week, that the position that the weaker brother holds may be wrong, unscriptural, and even absurd. Yet what I'm going to show you is that fussing and arguing and harassment will never prevail and trying to convince that weak brother that his position is wrong and absurd.

[John Weaver] Now, let me give you a couple of observations that are going to be vitally important in understanding the message today. First of all, the strong brethren should be willing to help and to teach the weaker brethren. The strong brethren should be willing to help and to teach the weaker brethren. I'm going to show you that from scripture. The second observation is this, the weaker brethren should be willing to be helped and be taught.

[John Weaver] Let me say this another way. The strong must be willing to teach. And the weak must be willing to be taught. Again, The strong must be teachers, and the weak must be teachable. It is absolutely impossible to help or to teach someone who has a know-it-all attitude or thinks that he has already arrived at all truths. And unhappily, a lot of young men in the faith, although they are novices in the faith, refuse to listen and refuse to be instructed because they believe that somehow in their few short years, they have arrived at perfect knowledge. It's an interesting thing that a lot of young people go to college. Not to learn. but to teach the professors and to instruct them.

[John Weaver] The Puritans had a saying that revealed this situation very clearly. The Puritans used to say, oh, how many would be wise if they did not already think themselves so. And that is certainly the attitude of a lot of people. So if someone's going to be taught, he has to have a teachable spirit. He has to be willing to listen. He has to be willing to learn. He has to be willing to consider and not just defend his position. All of us by nature want to defend what we believe, what we think, and what we've been taught. I remember very clearly as a young man, the first time I had some of my views challenged.

[John Weaver] You're talking about bowing up. I did. And I rebuked one of my professors. Of course, I found out later he was right and I was wrong, and I had to go back and apologize to him. I'm just simply saying that is the natural tendency of a young man. Don't you remember John classified them as having strength and zeal? Of course. But how many would be wise if they didn't already think themselves so?

[John Weaver] A recalcitrant student always makes teaching more difficult, more laborious, and more onerous. On the other hand, an impatient, angry, and difficult teacher, likewise, makes it almost impossible to learn. So what the Bible teaches is, there must be a willingness to teach, and there must be a willingness to be taught. So I want you to hold Romans 14, but look in your Bibles, if you would, to 2 Timothy 2.

[John Weaver] And notice, if you would please, verse 2. 2 Timothy 2 and verse 2. In fact, we may read verse 1 just to show you that the Apostle Paul is writing to Timothy, and look what he says. Thou therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus. And watch the instruction that he gives Timothy now. And the things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses, the same commit thou to faithful men who shall be able to teach others also. Now, Paul said to Timothy, the things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses.

[John Weaver] Let me paraphrase that for you. The things that you have been taught, the things that I taught you, said the Apostle Paul, Second Timothy two in verse two. The things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses, the same, that is those same truths, those same doctrines, commit thou to faithful men who shall be able to teach others also."

[John Weaver] Now, I want to make something exceedingly clear. In this passage, one is to be willing to teach, and the others must be teachable. Notice the Apostle Paul did not tell Timothy to run everyone down and cram truth down their throat. No. He said the same things that thou hast seen and heard of me, the same commit thou to faithful men who will be able to teach others also. In other words, if I'm obligated to teach, you're obligated to listen. If I'm obligated to teach, you're obligated to learn. And you have to be faithful at learning. You have to be faithful in listening and hearing and applying.

[John Weaver] Our Lord never chased anyone down. Paul told Timothy, the same commit thou to faithful men who shall be able to teach others also. You see, the truth of the matter is this, folks. If you've been saved by the grace of God, you really should have a desire to learn the Word of God and to be taught. So I'm willing to teach anyone who's willing to listen and who's willing to be faithful in attending the preaching and teaching of the Word of God and listening and learning.

[John Weaver] And I'll clue you in on a little secret. I'm sure you already know this. You can't learn God's Word overnight. It's not one of these things like instant coffee. You just have it, and it is. No. Look back in your Bibles, Romans chapter 15. I'm just trying to show you, once again, it is the obligation, it is the duty, and I will add, it is the privilege of the strong to teach the weak. Look in your Bibles, Romans 15, verses 1 through 3. God in His sovereignty has placed this duty and this obligation upon the strong. I could ask it like this.

[John Weaver] Who best is designed to communicate truth? Those who already know the truth. Those who already understand the truth. Those to whom God has already given the truth. So look in Romans 15 in verse 1. The Apostle says it like this. We that are strong, And by the way, he classifies himself as a strong believer. He says, We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let every one of us please his neighbor for his good edification. For even Christ pleased not himself, but as it is written, the reproaches of them that reproach thee fell on me. Now I want you to note, he said, We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak. First of all, let me tell you what the word bear means. The word bear means to take to oneself. It means to sustain, to support, to bear, to carry, to take up in order to carry. So the apostle tells us, we then that are strong ought to carry the infirmities of the weak.

[John Weaver] The word infirmities here refers to an error arising from a weakness of the mind. An error arising from a weakness of the mind.

[John Weaver] Now listen, it does not mean that someone is stupid just because they don't know something. It does not mean that someone is mentally deficient. It does not mean that someone is plain crazy. No, it doesn't mean that at all. It just means very obviously that someone is not thinking straight in some area. I can assure you if you tried to get me in an area other than theology, history, and philosophy, I would not be thinking straight in some of those areas. I would not be thinking straight in the field of engineering. I would not be thinking straight in the field of finished carpentry. I would not be thinking straight in a number of fields. And therefore, I would have to be taught because I would have an infirmity in that particular area. So it doesn't mean that someone is stupid, it just means he has a dull, inconsistent understanding in one specific area.

[John Weaver] So he says, we then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak. Now notice he says, and not to please ourselves. What's the Apostle Paul mean? He simply means this, the strong in such an instance are not to please themselves, which is simply to go on their merry way, exercising their Christian liberties without regard for their weaker brethren. Rather, he says, what we are to do is to please our brethren in edifying, educating, and enlightening them.

[John Weaver] Which sometimes is a very painful and difficult task. But then he tells us why. He says in verse 2, Let every one of us please his neighbor for his good edification, for even Christ pleased not himself. In other words, Christ did not come to live for himself. He came to do the Father's will. He came to give himself and his life a ransom for his people. He sacrificed himself. He lived a sacrificial life. In other words, he gave everything to purchase us.

[John Weaver] And here's the apostles argument. If Christ has given everything and sacrificed everything for us, cannot we sacrifice a little Toward the weaker brethren. Remember what our Lord said in Luke 22 in verse 27, let me just quote it. Our Lord asked his disciples this question, for whether is greater he that sitteth at meat or him that serveth? And then he asked, is not he that sitteth at meat? And then he says this, but I'm among you as one that serveth. So Christ did not come to be served, but to serve. He did not come to be ministered to, but to minister.

[John Weaver] And so He's telling us here, we that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak and not to please ourselves. Now, go in your Bibles to the book of Galatians chapter 6 and look if you would please at verse 2. Galatians 6 and verse 2. Here's an interesting scripture in light of what I've just read. Galatians 6 and verse 2, the word of God says, bear ye one another's burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ. Bear ye one another's burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ. So the question has to be asked, how do we bear one another's burdens? And in light of this message, the answer is by patiently teaching, educating, encouraging our weaker brethren in the faith.

[John Weaver] One of the greatest sources of conflicts between Christians arise when one brother does not see exactly the same way on an issue as does another brother. When you have two Christians that disagree If they have not learned Christian discipline, self-control, charity, inevitably what they're going to do is get into a heated discussion. And during that heated discussion, each one is going to try to prove his own point. And when the other Christian does not see or understand or comprehend the point that is trying to be proved, Then the other Christian is going to usually end up getting angry and calling him stupid or a heretic or some name like that. And the next thing you know, there's going to be a division and a loss of friendship. And that's it.

[John Weaver] And everything goes downhill from there. I suppose one of my favorite cartoons that I saw years ago reveals this mentality. I saw the cartoon, the pastor was walking down the hall of the church with a gentleman and there was an open door in a room and here were these two men rolling around on the floor fighting. Each one of them had a black eye, their hair was pulled, their shirts were all out, scratched, bleeding. And the pastor just calmly says, as the man looked in the room, said, oh, never mind them. They're just having their weekly discussion on the doctrine of election. Well, you know, that's the way it goes a lot of times.

[John Weaver] Do you realize the same could be said concerning eschatology? I've known pastors who are absolutely ready to fight if you did not believe exactly the way they believed concerning the return of Christ. In fact, I have known pastors and I have heard pastors call other preachers heretics because they differed eschatologically speaking.

[John Weaver] Now I want to just very quickly show you and demonstrate the insanity of name-calling and fighting over eschatology. Let me just point something out. Do you realize there's four main views when it comes to eschatology? There is historic premillennialism that just simply says that Christ is going to return before the millennium, did not teach a rapture or anything like that. It's just called historic premillennialism. There's amillennialism, which came to pass in the 4th century under Augustine. There is post-millennialism, and then there is dispensational premillennialism. And there are varying views within those four major views. For instance, once you get a dispensational premillennialism, there's pre-trib, raptures, there's mid-trib, there's post-trib, there's all kind of use. But the point I'm trying to make is this. If someone is a historical premill, if someone is an amill, if someone is a postmill, if someone is a dispensational premill, each one of them believes that Jesus Christ is going to return to this earth literally, visibly, and bodily.

[John Weaver] The only thing they disagree on is when and how. So how can someone be called a heretic if he really believes that Jesus Christ is him literally, visibly, bodily? He just disagrees with somebody as to when he's coming back and how he's coming back. You see what I'm saying? And yet, eschatology is such a source of division.

[John Weaver] Now, it is true that eschatology is important, and your eschatology does indeed determine your worldview, and it does indeed determine your application of Scripture. But yet neither one of those four major positions denies the return of Christ. So why in the world, then, are you going to argue with somebody and fuss and fight and call somebody a heretic just because he doesn't believe that Christ is going to return exactly when you think he is or how he thinks he's going to return or how you think he's going to return? You see, Augustine, one of the early church fathers, had a dictum.

[John Weaver] And here's what he said. In essentials, unity. In non-essentials, liberty. In all things, charity. And it would do well for modern day Christians to understand that dictum and certainly apply the charity to many situations. It's absolutely true that we're required to teach and minister to each other, however, it must be done in a biblical manner and it must be done with biblical understanding. So how do we minister to each other in a biblical manner and with biblical understanding? Well, I want you to look in your Bibles, first of all, to the book of Titus, chapter one and verse nine. Then we'll turn right back a page or two to 2 Timothy, but notice Titus 1 and verse 9. Look what Paul tells Titus.

[John Weaver] He says, holding fast the faithful word as he has been taught, that he may be able by sound doctrine both to exhort and convince the gainsayers. So if we're going to convince anyone, if we're going to convict anyone, it must be with sound doctrine. It cannot be, well, I think, or in my opinion, or the way I see it, or let me tell you what I've been taught. No. We have to be able to use the Word of God and with sound doctrine present the position that's being taught. Now, it's not just sound doctrine.

[John Weaver] Turn back to 2 Timothy chapter 2 and let's begin reading there in verse 24. So we must have sound doctrine, that is true, but there's more than just sound doctrine. In 2 Timothy 2 verse 24, the Apostle Paul writes, And the servant of the Lord must not strive, but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, in meekness instructing those that oppose themselves, if God, peradventure, will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth. and that they may recover themselves out of the snare of the devil, who were taken captive by him at his will." Now, let's go back, if you would, to verse 24 first. He said,"...and the servant of the Lord must not strive." The word strive there refers to a war of words. It refers to what you and I would call quarreling, arguing, wrangling, and fighting. So negatively, we're not to strive with each other in this sense. We're not to receive each other to doubtful disputations. On the positive side, in verse 24, we're to be able to teach, we're to be patient, we're to be meek, we're to be humble in instructing those that oppose themselves.

[John Weaver] Now let me ask you a question. If one opposes himself, That is, if he refuses to receive the truth, if he balks, if he doesn't understand, is he likely to submit to the teaching immediately? No. No. That's why the one doing the teaching has to be patient and gentle. Because once you oppose yourself, you're not going to see everything right away. Let me ask you another question.

[John Weaver] Let's suppose that someone is in error. What will it take for him to repent? Well, look in verse 25. In meekness instructing those that oppose themselves, if God peradventure will give the repentance to the acknowledging of the truth. Who is it that gives repentance? It's God. Can we demand that God give someone repentance? Can we demand that God give someone repentance right now? Can we dictate to God that He must do something based upon our schedule and our timetable? The answer is no. If God doesn't give a man repentance, he'll never turn from his foolishness. He'll never turn from his error. He'll never turn from his stupidity. That's why the scripture said we have to patiently and meekly teach the truth. It's God who gives repentance. And if men are going to recover themselves from the snare of the devil, it's only as God gives them repentance.

[John Weaver] What we have failed to do is this. We have failed to connect two absolute truths. Here they are. The sovereignty of God in salvation and the sovereignty of God in illumination. The God who is absolutely sovereign in salvation is absolutely sovereign in illumination. God does not give everyone the same amount of truth, nor does He give everyone the same truth at the same time. Just as God is sovereign in disposing or giving grace and faith and repentance, that same God is just as sovereign in giving illumination and enlightenment. And the truth of the matter is this, if God does not open our eyes, we will never see the truth. We will never understand the simplest doctrine. It is true that we have a responsibility to study and to know and to learn the truth. But just because we have that responsibility does not mean that we have the ability in and of ourselves. There's a difference between responsibility and ability. And we think somehow that we can make people see the truth. We can't. It's true we are to be qualified to use scripture and to teach sound doctrine.

[John Weaver] But I could teach sound doctrine all day long. If God does not open your eyes, you will never, ever see it. Let me give you an illustration. Look back in your Bibles to the book of Luke 24. Everyone knows the story. of the two disciples on the Emmaus road. You remember, they're walking down that road. And our Lord, after his resurrection, joins himself. To these disciples. And I want you to note this.

[John Weaver] They did not know who he was. Our Lord asked them Why are you so glum? What's wrong with you? And they say, are you a stranger? Have you not heard? We thought this Jesus was the Messiah, and he's been crucified. And besides this, it's the third day. And our Lord looked at them and said, oh, fools and fools of heart to believe all that the prophets have written ought not thrice to have suffered and entered into glory. And then, beginning at Moses and all the prophets, he explained to them all things concerning himself.

[John Weaver] Now, we're in Luke chapter 24, and I want you to note something. Verse 27, and beginning at Moses and all the prophets, he expounded to them in all the scriptures the things concerning himself. And they drew nigh unto the village whither they went. And he made it as though he would have gone further. But they constrained him, saying, Abide with us, for it is for the evening, and the day is for spent. And he went in to tarry with them.

[John Weaver] And it came to pass, as he said it, meet with them. He took bread, and blessed it, and break it, and gave it them. Watch verse 31, And their eyes were opened, and they knew him, and he vanished out of their sight. They had walked with him for miles, and did not know who he was. By the way, I want to give you a quick lesson in Greek. But the scripture says in verse 31, and their eyes were opened.

[John Weaver] It is an heiress passive, an heiress means something that happens once and for all. It is passive. It means the subject had nothing to do with it. It was done to the subject. So what God did was He sovereignly opened their eyes and they knew then who He was. Had God not opened their eyes, they would have never ever known who He was. I want you to watch this.

[John Weaver] Let's skip down to verse 42. Because our Lord has now revealed himself to the other disciples, and they gave him a piece of broiled fish and a honeycomb, and he took it and did eat before them. And he said unto them, These are the words which I have spoken to you while I was yet with you, that all things must be fulfilled which were written in the law of Moses and in the prophets and in the Psalms concerning me. Are you watching?

[John Weaver] Then opened he their understanding that they might understand the scriptures. What did he do? He opened their understanding. Why? That they might understand the Scriptures. They did not see the truth on their own. They did not understand the truth on their own. They did not comprehend the truth on their own. And had he not sovereignly, powerfully opened their understanding, they would have never seen the truth. But our Lord, opened their understanding that they might understand the scriptures.

[John Weaver] Now, it's imperative that you and I understand the biblical doctrine of illumination. Here's the biblical doctrine of illumination. Listen carefully. Illumination is the act and work of God the Spirit, whereby he opens our understanding enlightens our minds, and enables us to understand previously revealed truth, which of course is the Bible. So here's the illumination. It's the act and work of God the Spirit whereby he opens our understanding, enlightens our minds, and enables us to understand truth that has been previously revealed. There is no way that you and I can understand any of the scripture apart from illumination. I've had people tell me for years, I just can't understand the Bible. Of course you can't. Neither can I. Not on our own, not apart from illumination. And this business about, well, we just need newer versions, easier to understand. That's hogwash. You don't need a newer version. You don't need something that you think is easy to understand. What you need is to be illuminated by the Holy Spirit. I don't see how, the Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want.

[John Weaver] It's too difficult. How about, you must be born again. That's not too difficult. How about accept your repentance, you shall likewise perish. That's not difficult either. The problem is not with the difficulty of the plain text of Scripture. The problem is the dullness of our mind. And we don't understand. And unless God opens our eyes, we will never, ever see it. Period.

[John Weaver] Now, I want you to turn to two passages. I want you to turn to Proverbs 2 and 2 Timothy chapter 2. Proverbs 2. and 2 Timothy chapter 2. I want you to see where understanding comes from. Look in Proverbs chapter 2 and verse 6 and then we're going to 2 Timothy chapter 2 and verse 7. Proverbs 2 verse 6. Look at what the scripture says. For the Lord giveth wisdom Out of His mouth cometh knowledge and understanding. Where do wisdom and understanding and knowledge come from? From God alone. If we understand anything, it's because He gave us understanding. Now look in 2 Timothy 2 and verse 7. Look what Paul told Timothy. Paul wrote Timothy and he said, Consider what I say. and the Lord give thee understanding in all things." Consider what I say, and the Lord give thee understanding in all things.

[John Weaver] The duty, the obligation and honor and privilege of considering God's truth is ours. However, it is only God who has the gift of understanding, and it is only God who gives that gift and enables us to understand His truth. It does not matter if we're babes in Christ, or young men in Christ, or fathers in Christ. None of us can ever understand the Scripture apart from the illumination of the Holy Spirit.

[John Weaver] I could be saved 250 years. That doesn't mean a thing. I still need the illumination of the Holy Spirit if I want to understand the Scripture. Those who have advanced in the faith have done so because they considered what God said, and God opened their eyes to the truth. Had God not opened our eyes, we would still be babes as well.

[John Weaver] Now, I want you to turn in your Bibles to the book of Mark, chapter 4. And look, if you would please, beginning there with verse 23, because we're talking about God giving understanding. Paul told Timothy, consider what I say and the Lord give the understanding in all things. Now, let me try to show you the principles that Christ lays out in Mark 4 in understanding and applying the word of God. Look at Mark 4. Let's begin there with verse 23. Mark 4, verse 23.

[John Weaver] If any man have ears to hear, let him hear. And he said unto them, Take heed what you hear, now watch, with what measure you meet, it shall be measured to you. And unto you that hear shall more be given. For he that hath to him shall be given, and he that hath not from him shall be taken, even that which he hath."

[John Weaver] Now, although God gives understanding, folks, God does not give it willy-nilly. He normally gives understanding as we meditate upon His Word. And here's what our Lord says, to the measure we give in meditating and considering God's truth, to that same measure, God measures truth back to us. We're not going to study for 15 minutes and get four hours worth of truth. We're not going to study an hour and get two days worth of truth. If we study 15 minutes and God opens our eyes, we're going to get 15 minutes worth of truth. If we studied an hour and God opens our eyes, we're going to get an hour's worth of truth. But the truth of the matter is this, we could study for the rest of our lives, and if God never opened our eyes, we would not understand the truth. But here's what he's saying. Look in verse 25. In fact, let's take verse 24, and he said unto them, taking what you hear, with what measure you meet, it shall be measured to you.

[John Weaver] Now watch, and unto you that hear shall more be given. Now the opposite is also true. To those who do not hear, no more will be given.

[John Weaver] Now this principle alone should explain why most professing Christians are no more than babes in Christ. This principle alone should explain why the average church has so many problems. First, most Christians do not study or meditate upon the Word of God.

[John Weaver] Secondly, they do not apply what they hear and what they know. They do not put it into practice. And I've got news for you folks. If you don't put it into practice, You really don't have it. That's why the Bible says in verse 25, from him shall be taken even that which you have. You think you know truth. I tell you what you do. You don't apply it.

[John Weaver] And just shortly, you will totally, absolutely forget it. Period. Let me ask you. Our Lord said, and to you that hear shall more be given. Why would God give anyone more truth if they won't obey the truth that He's already given them? Obviously. Let me point something else out. God only gives us truth as we're able to hear it. God only gives us truth as we're able to hear it.

[John Weaver] I used the illustration last week. You would not take a two month old baby and feed that baby a T-bone steak. Very obviously, he's not able to eat it, swallow it, or digest it. You know, I've heard Christians say this concerning truth that they now hold dear. and believe, they say, oh, would God. I'd heard this 20 years ago. Wouldn't have done you any good. Because you may not have been able to hear it 20 years ago. You may not have been able to understand it 20 years ago.

[John Weaver] Look at what the Scripture says. Look in Mark four, verse 20, verse 33. Here it is, black and white, Mark 4, verse 33,"...and with many such parables spake he the word unto them, as they were able to hear it." God's not going to give you truth until you're able to hear it. And if you continue to reject what He's already given you, He's just not going to give you any more. You're never going to be in a position to hear more truth until you obey what you already know. You say, well, I'd like to know more. I would really like to learn.

[John Weaver] How do I grow in grace and faith? How do I grow in understanding and enlightenment? Well, look at verse 34. But without a parable spake he not unto them, and when they were alone, he expounded all things to his disciples. If you really, really want to understand, then you need to learn to get along with Jesus Christ and seek him. and talk with him and ask him for understanding and enlightenment and he'll teach you.

[John Weaver] That's what the scripture says. So just what I'm showing you, since you understand that God is sovereign in illumination. That God does not give everyone the same amount of understanding nor the same degree of understanding at the same time. And since they're babes and young men and fathers, and since if God does not open our eyes, we'll never understand. Here's my question. What good does it get to get mad at someone for not understanding? Why should I argue? Why should I fuss? Why should I get all bent out of shape just because you don't see something? I may want you to see it. I may long for you to see it. But I can't open your eyes. I cannot give you understanding. That's the gift of God. That's why it requires patience on my part. It requires patience on your part.

[John Weaver] That you have to continually teach the same thing over and over and over and over until God in his grace Now, look in your Bibles to the book of Acts chapter 16 and look at verse 14. Here's Lydia. Everyone should know about Lydia. Lydia was the seller of purple and Tyra Tyra. But I want you to know what the Bible says concerning her. And I really like this verse because it really explains everything that I've been saying. Acts chapter 16. Let's begin reading their verse 13. And on the Sabbath, we went out of the city by Riverside where prayer was want to be made, and we sat down. Now look what Paul says, and stake to the women which resorted thither. And a certain woman named Lydia, a cellar purple of the city of Thyatira, who worshiped God, heard us, whose heart The Lord opened that, or with the result that, she attended unto the things which were spoken by Paul.

[John Weaver] Now let me ask you a question. Why did Lydia listen intently, seriously, and with understanding to those things which were spoken by the Apostle Paul? because the Lord opened her heart. Unless God opens our heart, which is our understanding, we'll never ever see truth.

[John Weaver] Now, there's just one more truth that has to be comprehended. I'm going to tie it together. Let me ask you this. What is it that will keep us meek and humble as we try to help others. Let me mention several things. The first one is this. None of us came into this world with understanding. You were not born with understanding. You were taught everything that you now know. Secondly, Not only were you not born with understanding, it took time for you to learn that which you now know and believe.

[John Weaver] You did not arrive where you are overnight. It took years of listening and learning and submitting to the Word of God to get where you are now in your understanding.

[John Weaver] Thirdly, many of us in the beginning were obnoxious, recalcitrant, and reluctant to receive that which we now hold and believe to be absolute truth. We fought it. We ridiculed it. We laughed. We refused to believe it as it was taught. And now God has opened our eyes. Thankfully, whoever taught us never threw us away. And even more thankfully, God did not leave us to ourselves and our ignorance.

[John Weaver] So let me ask you, where are you in your Christian faith? And why are you there? I want you to turn to one last passage. I want you to look in 1 Corinthians chapter 4. And look, if you would please, at verse 7. Where are you and why are you where you are in your Christian faith? Look in 1 Corinthians 4 and verse 7 at the questions the Apostle Paul asked. Look what he asked.

[John Weaver] For who maketh thee to differ from another? And what hast thou that thou didst not receive? Now if thou didst receive it, what is thou glorious that thou hast not received it? What? For who made you to differ one from another? Why are you saved and others lost? Why do you have understandings and others are ignorant? Who made you to differ? And what do you have that was not given to you by the grace and mercy of God? And Paul asks, if you have received it, why then are you boasting or acting as if you did not receive it?

[John Weaver] In other words, Paul's argument is simply this. If God was gracious and merciful and patient with us and gave us His gift of understanding, everything we have is His gift. Can we not be merciful and gracious and patient with others until God opens their eyes as well? Because everything that we are and everything that we have, God gave us. And it's now incumbent upon us to teach others without arguing, without bickering, without bellyaching and complaining, but just patiently and gently and kindly sharing the Word of God constantly, consistently and continually until God opens the eyes.

[John Weaver] Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, we bow to Thee. We thank You. We praise You. And Lord, we acknowledge that everything we are, we are by the grace of God. Paul said, I am what I am by the grace of God. And Lord, we have what we have by the grace of God. Every little bit of understanding you gave us. And Lord, we acknowledge that every good gift and every perfect gift cometh down from above, from the Father of lights, with whom is no variable, is neither shadow of turning. Teach us, Lord, to share that which we've known, and to do so patiently and humbly for thy honor and thy glory. In Christ's name we pray, amen.

[John Weaver] You may contact Dominion Ministry by mail at 7400 Abercorn, that's A-B-E-R, C-O-R-N, Street, Suite 705, P-M-B, 175, Savannah, Georgia, 31406. Or give us a call at 912-925-7000.

[John Weaver] You can also visit our website at www.dominionministry.com

How to Avoid Conflicts 2

John Weaver | SermonAudio

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Speaker	John Weaver
Source	SermonAudio
Media ID	6211742161
Subject	Old Testament Studies
Course	Proverbs: The Fear of the Lord and Wisdom: The Doctrine of Election
Genre	Sermon
Date	2011-04-10
Dictation Name
Book	Book 153: How to Avoid Conflicts — Chapter 2
Source Timed Segments	77

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Introduction and Review

Weaver reviews the previous message on Romans 14:1, emphasizing that practical Christian living is built on sound doctrine and that believers have varying degrees of faith, which inevitably leads to conflicts.

Well, let's open our Bibles, if you would please, today to the book of Romans, chapter 14 again. Romans, chapter 14. This is the second message on how to avoid conflicts between Christians. And I want us to read again the first three verses. Romans, chapter 14. The Word of God says,

Scripture Reading — Romans 14:1-3

"Him that is weak in the faith receive ye, but not to doubtful disputations. For one believeth that he may eat all things, another who is weak eateth herbs. Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not, and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth, for God hath received him."

Although this message is entitled, "How to Avoid Conflicts Between Christians," there is also a subtitle today, and that is, "The Uselessness and Worthlessness in Arguing."

You will understand that as we continue. Of course, we looked last week at Romans 14 and verse 1, "Him that is weak in the faith receive ye, but not to doubtful disputations." And I want to point out by way of review one of the leading principles that I enunciated last week, and that is this, that practical Christian living is a result of sound doctrinal teaching. You cannot live what you do not know, what you do not understand, and what you do not believe. Practice and application are always built upon doctrine, and it should be painfully evident to each of us that one of the main reasons there are so many unbiblical attitudes and unbiblical actions among Christians is that there is a dearth of biblical doctrine being taught and being presented. We also learn from verse one that there are degrees of faith. There's a weak faith. There's a strong faith. There's a little faith. There's a great faith. You remember, even our Lord looked at his disciples and said, "O ye of little faith." And then again, he said he had not seen so great a faith a little bit later on. So there are varying degrees of faith. There's a weak and strong and everything in between. And in 1 John 2, John distinguishes at least three degrees.

He talks about young children or babes and young men and fathers. And of course, very obviously, we have to understand that not every believer is on the same level in understanding or in the application of doctrine. And since there are these varying degrees and varying levels of understanding, then conflicts between weak and strong believers are inevitably going to arise. It's also, I believe, critical for us to remember that a believer is still a believer. He may be a weak believer. He may be a strong believer.

The Nature of Conflicts Over Indifferent Matters

Conflicts addressed are between believers over adiaphora (indifferent things) like meats and days, not clear violations of Scripture. The strong tend to despise the weak, and the weak tend to judge the strong.

However, with an unbeliever, if they continue to refuse the truth, we may reject them. Because the Bible says in Titus 3, verse 10,

Scripture Reading — Titus 3:10

"He that is a heretic, after the first and second admonition, reject."

However, a great amount of what I'm going to say today toward believers could also be applied to unbelievers as well, but I'm only dealing with the subject of believers today. So, another thing that should be emphasized is this. I'm dealing with that which is known as indifferent. There are things that are considered the adiaphora, or the indifferent things in the scripture. That is, where there is no clear teaching in the scripture, and each man's conscience has been taught differently. We're not talking about clear violations of scripture. Because if there is a clear violation of scripture, there are too many other passages that command us to rebuke and reprove and to admonish and to warn, so I'm not talking about clear violations of scripture. What I'm talking about today is what you and I would call hang-ups, idiosyncrasies, ignorance, past influence and habits.

And the two things that the Apostle Paul singled out in Romans chapter 14 are meats and dates. There have been, may have been, many other things in the Roman church that caused these conflicts as well. But Paul singled out these two. Likewise, today there may be many varying and different subjects that cause the conflicts. However, usually you're going to find that the majority of conflicts, not only in the New Testament time, but even in our time, stem from a misunderstanding of the ceremonies and the feasts, special days, those things still arise today. Consequently, since there is a difference of opinion on some of those things, there is going to be an occasion for conflicts.

Now, look very carefully at verses 2 and 3. The Apostle Paul says in Romans 14, verse 2, "For one believeth that he may eat all things, another who is weak eateth herbs. Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not, and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth, for God hath received him." Now, I'm going to be commenting more on these verses next week than I am today. But I want you to note, just on the surface of these two verses, it is the strong brother that enjoys the most of God's creation. It is the weak brother that enjoys the least of God's creation. It's also important for you to note that the tendency of someone who is strong in the faith is to despise, condemn, and belittle someone who is weak in the faith. Because someone who is strong in the faith is going to say, "Oh come on, grow up." And it is the tendency of the one who is weak in the faith to judge the strong by saying something like this.

"I'll see how you can do that and call yourself a Christian." So whenever you have two groups together or two individuals together, and one has a natural tendency to condemn, and are criticized and belittled, and the other has the natural tendency to judge and to be quick in that judgment, then very obviously you're going to have conflicts as well. You're going to have disputations, you're going to have arguments, you're going to have quarrels, and they're going to quickly arise because you're going to find that both the strong and the weak have opposing views, and they're going to be quick to let you know what their views are. And they would usually tell you in no uncertain terms. And that will always then lead to conflicts. So conflicts arose then in the time of the Apostle Paul, and most of the time it was over these ceremonial laws. Some of these people believed that because the meat had been offered to an idol, that somehow that meat had become contaminated. And therefore it was unfit for consumption. And some believe that with such ferocity, that in order to make sure that they did not eat any meat at all that had been offered to idols, they became vegetarians.

The Obligation to Teach and Be Teachable

The strong must be willing to teach, and the weak must be teachable. Using 2 Timothy 2:2, Weaver shows that truth is to be committed to faithful people who can teach others, requiring a teachable spirit.

Let me say this another way. The strong must be willing to teach. And the weak must be willing to be taught. Again, the strong must be teachers, and the weak must be teachable. It is absolutely impossible to help or to teach someone who has a know-it-all attitude or thinks that he has already arrived at all truths. And unhappily, a lot of young men in the faith, although they are novices in the faith, refuse to listen and refuse to be instructed because they believe that somehow in their few short years, they have arrived at perfect knowledge. It's an interesting thing that a lot of young people go to college. Not to learn, but to teach the professors and to instruct them.

The Puritans had a saying that revealed this situation very clearly. The Puritans used to say, "Oh, how many would be wise if they did not already think themselves so." And that is certainly the attitude of a lot of people. So if someone's going to be taught, he has to have a teachable spirit. He has to be willing to listen. He has to be willing to learn. He has to be willing to consider and not just defend his position. All of us by nature want to defend what we believe, what we think, and what we've been taught. I remember very clearly as a young man, the first time I had some of my views challenged.

You're talking about blowing up. I did. And I rebuked one of my professors. Of course, I found out later he was right and I was wrong, and I had to go back and apologize to him. I'm just simply saying that is the natural tendency of a young man. Don't you remember John classified them as having strength and zeal? Of course. But how many would be wise if they didn't already think themselves so?

A recalcitrant student always makes teaching more difficult, more laborious, and more onerous. On the other hand, an impatient, angry, and difficult teacher, likewise, makes it almost impossible to learn. So what the Bible teaches is, there must be a willingness to teach, and there must be a willingness to be taught. So I want you to hold Romans 14, but look in your Bibles, if you would, to 2 Timothy 2. And notice, if you would please, verse 2. 2 Timothy 2 and verse 2. In fact, we may read verse 1 just to show you that the Apostle Paul is writing to Timothy, and look what he says. "Thou therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus." And watch the instruction that he gives Timothy now.

Scripture Reading — 2 Timothy 2:2

"And the things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses, the same commit thou to faithful men who shall be able to teach others also."

Now, Paul said to Timothy,

Scripture Reading — 2 Timothy 2:2

"the things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses."

Let me paraphrase that for you. The things that you have been taught, the things that I taught you, said the Apostle Paul, 2 Timothy 2 and verse 2. "The things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses, the same," that is those same truths, those same doctrines, "commit thou to faithful men who shall be able to teach others also." Now, I want to make something exceedingly clear. In this passage, one is to be willing to teach, and the others must be teachable. Notice the Apostle Paul did not tell Timothy to run everyone down and cram truth down their throat. No. He said the same things that thou hast seen and heard of me, the same commit thou to faithful men who will be able to teach others also. In other words, if I'm obligated to teach, you're obligated to listen. If I'm obligated to teach, you're obligated to learn. And you have to be faithful at learning. You have to be faithful in listening and hearing and applying.

Our Lord never chased anyone down. Paul told Timothy, "the same commit thou to faithful men who shall be able to teach others also." You see, the truth of the matter is this, folks. If you've been saved by the grace of God, you really should have a desire to learn the Word of God and to be taught. So I'm willing to teach anyone who's willing to listen and who's willing to be faithful in attending the preaching and teaching of the Word of God and listening and learning.

Bearing the Infirmities of the Weak

Romans 15:1-3 commands the strong to bear the infirmities of the weak, meaning to carry their errors arising from mental weakness, not pleasing themselves but edifying others, following Christ's example of self-sacrifice.

Who best is designed to communicate truth? Those who already know the truth. Those who already understand the truth. Those to whom God has already given the truth. So look in Romans 15 and verse 1. The Apostle says it like this. "We that are strong," and by the way, he classifies himself as a strong believer. He says, "We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let every one of us please his neighbor for his good edification. For even Christ pleased not himself, but as it is written, 'The reproaches of them that reproach thee fell on me.'" Now I want you to note, he said, "We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak." First of all, let me tell you what the word "bear" means. The word "bear

Scripture Reading — Romans 15:1-3

" means to take to oneself. It means to sustain, to support, to bear, to carry, to take up in order to carry. So the apostle tells us, we then that are strong ought to carry the infirmities of the weak.

The word "infirmities" here refers to an error arising from a weakness of the mind. An error arising from a weakness of the mind. Now listen, it does not mean that someone is stupid just because they don't know something. It does not mean that someone is mentally deficient. It does not mean that someone is plain crazy. No, it doesn't mean that at all. It just means very obviously that someone is not thinking straight in some area. I can assure you if you tried to get me in an area other than theology, history, and philosophy, I would not be thinking straight in some of those areas. I would not be thinking straight in the field of engineering. I would not be thinking straight in the field of finished carpentry. I would not be thinking straight in a number of fields. And therefore, I would have to be taught because I would have an infirmity in that particular area. So it doesn't mean that someone is stupid, it just means he has a dull, inconsistent understanding in one specific area.

So he says, "We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak." Now notice he says, "and not to please ourselves." What's the Apostle Paul mean? He simply means this, the strong in such an instance are not to please themselves, which is simply to go on their merry way, exercising their Christian liberties without regard for their weaker brethren. Rather, he says, what we are to do is to please our brethren in edifying, educating, and enlightening them. Which sometimes is a very painful and difficult task. But then he tells us why. He says in verse 2, "Let every one of us please his neighbor for his good edification, for even Christ pleased not himself." In other words, Christ did not come to live for himself. He came to do the Father's will. He came to give himself and his life a ransom for his people. He sacrificed himself. He lived a sacrificial life. In other words, he gave everything to purchase us.

And here's the apostle's argument. If Christ has given everything and sacrificed everything for us, cannot we sacrifice a little toward the weaker brethren? Remember what our Lord said in Luke 22 and verse 27, let me just quote it. Our Lord asked his disciples this question, "For whether is greater, he that sitteth at meat or him that serveth?" And then he asked, "Is not he that sitteth at meat?" And then he says this, "But I am among you as one that serveth." So Christ did not come to be served, but to serve. He did not come to be ministered to, but to minister. And so He's telling us here, we that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak and not to please ourselves. Now, go in your Bibles to the book of Galatians chapter 6 and look if you would please at verse 2. Galatians 6 and verse 2. Here's an interesting scripture in light of what I've just read. Galatians 6 and verse 2, the word of God says, "Bear ye one another's burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ." Bear ye one another's burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ. So the question has to be asked, how do we bear one another's burdens? And in light of this message, the answer is by patiently teaching, educating, encouraging our weaker brethren in the faith.

The Futility of Arguing and Name-Calling

Arguing over non-essentials like eschatology is useless and divisive. Augustine's dictum is cited: 'In essentials, unity; in non-essentials, liberty; in all things, charity.'

And everything goes downhill from there. I suppose one of my favorite cartoons that I saw years ago reveals this mentality. I saw the cartoon, the pastor was walking down the hall of the church with a gentleman and there was an open door in a room and here were these two men rolling around on the floor fighting. Each one of them had a black eye, their hair was pulled, their shirts were all out, scratched, bleeding. And the pastor just calmly says, as the man looked in the room, said, "Oh, never mind them. They're just having their weekly discussion on the doctrine of election." Well, you know, that's the way it goes a lot of times. Do you realize the same could be said concerning eschatology? I've known pastors who are absolutely ready to fight if you did not believe exactly the way they believed concerning the return of Christ. In fact, I have known pastors and I have heard pastors call other preachers heretics because they differed eschatologically speaking.

Now I want to just very quickly show you and demonstrate the insanity of name-calling and fighting over eschatology. Let me just point something out. Do you realize there's four main views when it comes to eschatology? There is historic premillennialism that just simply says that Christ is going to return before the millennium, did not teach a rapture or anything like that. It's just called historic premillennialism. There's amillennialism, which came to pass in the 4th century under Augustine. There is post-millennialism, and then there is dispensational premillennialism. And there are varying views within those four major views. For instance, once you get into dispensational premillennialism, there's pre-trib, raptures, there's mid-trib, there's post-trib, there's all kind of views. But the point I'm trying to make is this. If someone is a historical premill, if someone is an amill, if someone is a postmill, if someone is a dispensational premill, each one of them believes that Jesus Christ is going to return to this earth literally, visibly, and bodily.

The only thing they disagree on is when and how. So how can someone be called a heretic if he really believes that Jesus Christ is coming literally, visibly, bodily? He just disagrees with somebody as to when he's coming back and how he's coming back. You see what I'm saying? And yet, eschatology is such a source of division.

Now, it is true that eschatology is important, and your eschatology does indeed determine your worldview, and it does indeed determine your application of Scripture. But yet neither one of those four major positions denies the return of Christ. So why in the world, then, are you going to argue with somebody and fuss and fight and call somebody a heretic just because he doesn't believe that Christ is going to return exactly when you think he is or how he thinks he's going to return or how you think he's going to return? You see, Augustine, one of the early church fathers, had a dictum. And here's what he said. "In essentials, unity. In non-essentials, liberty. In all things, charity." And it would do well for modern day Christians to understand that dictum and certainly apply the charity to many situations. It's absolutely true that we're required to teach and minister to each other, however, it must be done in a biblical manner and it must be done with biblical understanding. So how do we minister to each other in a biblical manner and with biblical understanding? Well, I want you to look in your Bibles, first of all, to the book of Titus, chapter one and verse nine. Then we'll turn right back a page or two to 2 Timothy, but notice Titus 1 and verse 9. Look what Paul tells Titus.

Biblical Manner of Teaching: Patience and Meekness

From 2 Timothy 2:24-26, teaching must be done with gentleness, patience, and meekness, recognizing that only God grants repentance and recovery from error.

He says, "Holding fast the faithful word as he has been taught, that he may be able by sound doctrine both to exhort and convince the gainsayers." So if we're going to convince anyone, if we're going to convict anyone, it must be with sound doctrine. It cannot be, "Well, I think," or "in my opinion," or "the way I see it," or "let me tell you what I've been taught." No. We have to be able to use the Word of God and with sound doctrine present the position that's being taught. Now, it's not just sound doctrine. Turn back to 2 Timothy chapter 2 and let's begin reading there in verse 24. So we must have sound doctrine, that is true, but there's more than just sound doctrine. In 2 Timothy 2 verse 24, the Apostle Paul writes,

Scripture Reading — 2 Timothy 2:24-26

"And the servant of the Lord must not strive, but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, in meekness instructing those that oppose themselves, if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth; and that they may recover themselves out of the snare of the devil, who were taken captive by him at his will."

Now, let's go back, if you would, to verse 24 first. He said,

Scripture Reading — 2 Timothy 2:24-26

"...and the servant of the Lord must not strive."

The word "strive

Scripture Reading — 2 Timothy 2:24-26

" there refers to a war of words. It refers to what you and I would call quarreling, arguing, wrangling, and fighting. So negatively, we're not to strive with each other in this sense. We're not to receive each other to doubtful disputations. On the positive side, in verse 24, we're to be able to teach, we're to be patient, we're to be meek, we're to be humble in instructing those that oppose themselves.

Now let me ask you a question. If one opposes himself, that is, if he refuses to receive the truth, if he balks, if he doesn't understand, is he likely to submit to the teaching immediately? No. No. That's why the one doing the teaching has to be patient and gentle. Because once you oppose yourself, you're not going to see everything right away. Let me ask you another question.

Let's suppose that someone is in error. What will it take for him to repent? Well, look in verse 25. "In meekness instructing those that oppose themselves, if God peradventure will give the repentance to the acknowledging of the truth." Who is it that gives repentance? It's God. Can we demand that God give someone repentance? Can we demand that God give someone repentance right now? Can we dictate to God that He must do something based upon our schedule and our timetable? The answer is no. If God doesn't give a man repentance, he'll never turn from his foolishness. He'll never turn from his error. He'll never turn from his stupidity. That's why the scripture said we have to patiently and meekly teach the truth. It's God who gives repentance. And if men are going to recover themselves from the snare of the devil, it's only as God gives them repentance.

What we have failed to do is this. We have failed to connect two absolute truths. Here they are. The sovereignty of God in salvation and the sovereignty of God in illumination. The God who is absolutely sovereign in salvation is absolutely sovereign in illumination. God does not give everyone the same amount of truth, nor does He give everyone the same truth at the same time. Just as God is sovereign in disposing or giving grace and faith and repentance, that same God is just as sovereign in giving illumination and enlightenment. And the truth of the matter is this, if God does not open our eyes, we will never see the truth. We will never understand the simplest doctrine. It is true that we have a responsibility to study and to know and to learn the truth. But just because we have that responsibility does not mean that we have the ability in and of ourselves. There's a difference between responsibility and ability. And we think somehow that we can make people see the truth. We can't. It's true we are to be qualified to use scripture and to teach sound doctrine.

The Sovereignty of God in Illumination

God is sovereign in giving understanding. Using Luke 24 and other passages, Weaver shows that no one can understand Scripture unless God opens their eyes. Illumination is the Spirit's work enabling comprehension of revealed truth.

But I could teach sound doctrine all day long. If God does not open your eyes, you will never, ever see it. Let me give you an illustration. Look back in your Bibles to the book of Luke 24. Everyone knows the story of the two disciples on the Emmaus road. You remember, they're walking down that road. And our Lord, after his resurrection, joins himself to these disciples. And I want you to note this.

They did not know who he was. Our Lord asked them, "Why are you so glum? What's wrong with you?" And they say, "Are you a stranger? Have you not heard? We thought this Jesus was the Messiah, and he's been crucified. And besides this, it's the third day." And our Lord looked at them and said, "O fools and slow of heart to believe all that the prophets have written! Ought not Christ to have suffered and entered into glory?" And then, beginning at Moses and all the prophets, he explained to them all things concerning himself.

Now, we're in Luke chapter 24, and I want you to note something. Verse 27,

Scripture Reading — Luke 24:27-31

"And beginning at Moses and all the prophets, he expounded to them in all the scriptures the things concerning himself. And they drew nigh unto the village whither they went. And he made as though he would have gone further. But they constrained him, saying, 'Abide with us, for it is toward evening, and the day is far spent.' And he went in to tarry with them." "And it came to pass, as he sat at meat with them, he took bread, and blessed it, and brake it, and gave it them."

Watch verse 31,

Scripture Reading — Luke 24:27-31

"And their eyes were opened, and they knew him, and he vanished out of their sight."

They had walked with him for miles, and did not know who he was. By the way, I want to give you a quick lesson in Greek. But the scripture says in verse 31,

Scripture Reading — Luke 24:27-31

"and their eyes were opened."

It is an aorist passive. An aorist means something that happens once and for all. It is passive. It means the subject had nothing to do with it. It was done to the subject. So what God did was He sovereignly opened their eyes and they knew then who He was. Had God not opened their eyes, they would have never ever known who He was. I want you to watch this.

Let's skip down to verse 42. Because our Lord has now revealed himself to the other disciples, "And they gave him a piece of broiled fish and a honeycomb, and he took it and did eat before them. And he said unto them, 'These are the words which I have spoken to you while I was yet with you, that all things must be fulfilled which were written in the law of Moses and in the prophets and in the Psalms concerning me.'" Are you watching? "Then opened he their understanding that they might understand the scriptures." What did he do? He opened their understanding. Why? That they might understand the Scriptures. They did not see the truth on their own. They did not understand the truth on their own. They did not comprehend the truth on their own. And had he not sovereignly, powerfully opened their understanding, they would have never seen the truth. But our Lord opened their understanding that they might understand the scriptures.

Now, it's imperative that you and I understand the biblical doctrine of illumination. Here's the biblical doctrine of illumination. Listen carefully. Illumination is the act and work of God the Spirit, whereby he opens our understanding, enlightens our minds, and enables us to understand previously revealed truth, which of course is the Bible. So here's the illumination. It's the act and work of God the Spirit whereby he opens our understanding, enlightens our minds, and enables us to understand truth that has been previously revealed. There is no way that you and I can understand any of the scripture apart from illumination. I've had people tell me for years, "I just can't understand the Bible." Of course you can't. Neither can I. Not on our own, not apart from illumination. And this business about, "Well, we just need newer versions, easier to understand." That's hogwash. You don't need a newer version. You don't need something that you think is easy to understand. What you need is to be illuminated by the Holy Spirit. I don't see how, "The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want."

It's too difficult. How about, "You must be born again." That's not too difficult. How about, "Except ye repent, ye shall likewise perish." That's not difficult either. The problem is not with the difficulty of the plain text of Scripture. The problem is the dullness of our mind. And we don't understand. And unless God opens our eyes, we will never, ever see it. Period.

Now, I want you to turn to two passages. I want you to turn to Proverbs 2 and 2 Timothy chapter 2. Proverbs 2 and 2 Timothy chapter 2. I want you to see where understanding comes from. Look in Proverbs chapter 2 and verse 6 and then we're going to 2 Timothy chapter 2 and verse 7. Proverbs 2 verse 6. Look at what the scripture says.

Scripture Reading — Proverbs 2:6

"For the Lord giveth wisdom: out of His mouth cometh knowledge and understanding."

Where do wisdom and understanding and knowledge come from? From God alone. If we understand anything, it's because He gave us understanding. Now look in 2 Timothy 2 and verse 7. Look what Paul told Timothy. Paul wrote Timothy and he said, "Consider what I say, and the Lord give thee understanding in all things." Consider what I say, and the Lord give thee understanding in all things.

The duty, the obligation and honor and privilege of considering God's truth is ours. However, it is only God who has the gift of understanding, and it is only God who gives that gift and enables us to understand His truth. It does not matter if we're babes in Christ, or young men in Christ, or fathers in Christ. None of us can ever understand the Scripture apart from the illumination of the Holy Spirit.

Principles of Receiving Truth

From Mark 4:23-25, God gives understanding in measure as we meditate on His Word. Truth is given as we are able to hear it, and failure to apply truth results in losing even what we think we have.

"If any man have ears to hear, let him hear. And he said unto them, 'Take heed what you hear: with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you. And unto you that hear shall more be given. For he that hath, to him shall be given, and he that hath not, from him shall be taken, even that which he hath.'"

Now, although God gives understanding, folks, God does not give it willy-nilly. He normally gives understanding as we meditate upon His Word. And here's what our Lord says, to the measure we give in meditating and considering God's truth, to that same measure, God measures truth back to us. We're not going to study for 15 minutes and get four hours worth of truth. We're not going to study an hour and get two days worth of truth. If we study 15 minutes and God opens our eyes, we're going to get 15 minutes worth of truth. If we studied an hour and God opens our eyes, we're going to get an hour's worth of truth. But the truth of the matter is this, we could study for the rest of our lives, and if God never opened our eyes, we would not understand the truth. But here's what he's saying. Look in verse 25. In fact, let's take verse 24, "And he said unto them, 'Take heed what you hear: with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you.'"

Now watch, "and unto you that hear shall more be given." Now the opposite is also true. To those who do not hear, no more will be given. Now this principle alone should explain why most professing Christians are no more than babes in Christ. This principle alone should explain why the average church has so many problems. First, most Christians do not study or meditate upon the Word of God. Secondly, they do not apply what they hear and what they know. They do not put it into practice. And I've got news for you folks. If you don't put it into practice, you really don't have it. That's why the Bible says in verse 25, "from him shall be taken even that which he hath." You think you know truth. I tell you what you do. You don't apply it.

And just shortly, you will totally, absolutely forget it. Period. Let me ask you. Our Lord said, "and to you that hear shall more be given." Why would God give anyone more truth if they won't obey the truth that He's already given them? Obviously. Let me point something else out. God only gives us truth as we're able to hear it. God only gives us truth as we're able to hear it.

I used the illustration last week. You would not take a two month old baby and feed that baby a T-bone steak. Very obviously, he's not able to eat it, swallow it, or digest it. You know, I've heard Christians say this concerning truth that they now hold dear and believe, they say, "Oh, would God I'd heard this 20 years ago." Wouldn't have done you any good. Because you may not have been able to hear it 20 years ago. You may not have been able to understand it 20 years ago. Look at what the Scripture says. Look in Mark four, verse 33. Here it is, black and white, Mark 4, verse 33,

Scripture Reading — Mark 4:33-34

"...and with many such parables spake he the word unto them, as they were able to hear it."

God's not going to give you truth until you're able to hear it. And if you continue to reject what He's already given you, He's just not going to give you any more. You're never going to be in a position to hear more truth until you obey what you already know. You say, "Well, I'd like to know more. I would really like to learn."

How do I grow in grace and faith? How do I grow in understanding and enlightenment? Well, look at verse 34. "But without a parable spake he not unto them: and when they were alone, he expounded all things to his disciples." If you really, really want to understand, then you need to learn to get along with Jesus Christ and seek him, and talk with him and ask him for understanding and enlightenment and he'll teach you.

Humility in Teaching Others

We should be humble because we were once ignorant, took time to learn, and often resisted truth. 1 Corinthians 4:7 reminds us that everything we have is a gift, so we must be patient with others.

You did not arrive where you are overnight. It took years of listening and learning and submitting to the Word of God to get where you are now in your understanding. Thirdly, many of us in the beginning were obnoxious, recalcitrant, and reluctant to receive that which we now hold and believe to be absolute truth. We fought it. We ridiculed it. We laughed. We refused to believe it as it was taught. And now God has opened our eyes. Thankfully, whoever taught us never threw us away. And even more thankfully, God did not leave us to ourselves and our ignorance.

So let me ask you, where are you in your Christian faith? And why are you there? I want you to turn to one last passage. I want you to look in 1 Corinthians chapter 4. And look, if you would please, at verse 7. Where are you and why are you where you are in your Christian faith? Look in 1 Corinthians 4 and verse 7 at the questions the Apostle Paul asked. Look what he asked.

"For who maketh thee to differ from another? And what hast thou that thou didst not receive? Now if thou didst receive it, why dost thou glory as if thou hadst not received it?" What? For who made you to differ one from another? Why are you saved and others lost? Why do you have understanding and others are ignorant? Who made you to differ? And what do you have that was not given to you by the grace and mercy of God? And Paul asks, if you have received it, why then are you boasting or acting as if you did not receive it?

In other words, Paul's argument is simply this. If God was gracious and merciful and patient with us and gave us His gift of understanding, everything we have is His gift. Can we not be merciful and gracious and patient with others until God opens their eyes as well? Because everything that we are and everything that we have, God gave us. And it's now incumbent upon us to teach others without arguing, without bickering, without bellyaching and complaining, but just patiently and gently and kindly sharing the Word of God constantly, consistently and continually until God opens the eyes.

Study Guide

Major Themes

Practical Christian Living Flows from Sound Doctrine

Summary: Christian conduct is built upon doctrinal understanding; a lack of biblical teaching leads to unbiblical attitudes and actions.

Evidence: Weaver states, 'practical Christian living is a result of sound doctrinal teaching. You cannot live what you do not know, what you do not understand, and what you do not believe.'

Degrees of Faith and Understanding Among Believers

Summary: Believers have varying levels of faith (weak, strong, little, great) and understanding, which inevitably leads to conflicts.

Evidence: Weaver explains, 'there are degrees of faith. There's a weak faith. There's a strong faith. There's a little faith. There's a great faith.'

The Uselessness of Arguing Over Non-Essentials

Summary: Arguing and harassing a weak brother over indifferent matters is futile and does not convince them of error.

Evidence: Weaver says, 'fussing and arguing and harassment will never prevail in trying to convince that weak brother that his position is wrong and absurd.'

The Strong Must Teach and the Weak Must Be Teachable

Summary: The strong have a duty to patiently teach, and the weak have a duty to listen and learn, as seen in 2 Timothy 2:2.

Evidence: Weaver states, 'the strong must be willing to teach. And the weak must be willing to be taught.'

Bearing the Infirmities of the Weak

Summary: The strong are commanded to carry the errors of the weak, not pleasing themselves but edifying them, following Christ's example.

Evidence: Weaver cites Romans 15:1, 'We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves.'

Sovereignty of God in Illumination

Summary: Only God can open a person's understanding to comprehend Scripture; human effort alone cannot produce spiritual insight.

Evidence: Weaver says, 'If God does not open our eyes, we will never see the truth. We will never understand the simplest doctrine.'

Humility and Patience in Teaching

Summary: Because all understanding is a gift from God, teachers must be patient and humble, remembering their own past ignorance and resistance.

Evidence: Weaver asks, 'If God was gracious and merciful and patient with us and gave us His gift of understanding, everything we have is His gift. Can we not be merciful and gracious and patient with others?'

Key Arguments

Arguing is useless because only God grants repentance and understanding.

Summary: Since God alone gives repentance and opens eyes, arguing cannot force someone to see truth; patient teaching is required.

Evidence: Weaver says, 'Who is it that gives repentance? It's God. Can we demand that God give someone repentance? ... The answer is no.'

Conflicts arise from despising or judging over indifferent matters.

Summary: The strong tend to despise the weak, and the weak tend to judge the strong, leading to disputes over non-essential issues.

Evidence: Weaver notes, 'the tendency of someone who is strong in the faith is to despise, condemn, and belittle someone who is weak... the tendency of the one who is weak in the faith to judge the strong.'

Teaching must be done with gentleness and patience, not strife.

Summary: 2 Timothy 2:24-26 commands the Lord's servant to avoid quarreling and instead gently instruct opponents, waiting on God for their repentance.

Evidence: Weaver reads, 'the servant of the Lord must not strive, but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, in meekness instructing those that oppose themselves.'

Understanding is a sovereign gift, not a human achievement.

Summary: 1 Corinthians 4:7 shows that everything we have is received from God, so we have no grounds for boasting or impatience with others.

Evidence: Weaver quotes, 'For who maketh thee to differ from another? And what hast thou that thou didst not receive?'

God gives truth in proportion to our meditation and obedience.

Summary: Mark 4:24-25 teaches that the measure we give in considering God's Word determines the measure of understanding we receive.

Evidence: Weaver explains, 'to the measure we give in meditating and considering God's truth, to that same measure, God measures truth back to us.'

Scripture References

Romans 14:1-3

Context: The primary text for the series, emphasizing receiving the weak without disputations and not despising or judging over matters like eating.

Titus 3:10

Context: Cited to distinguish dealing with heretics (reject after two admonitions) from dealing with weak believers.

2 Timothy 2:2

Context: Used to show that truth is to be committed to faithful people who can teach others, requiring teachability.

Romans 15:1-3

Context: Commands the strong to bear the infirmities of the weak and not please themselves, following Christ's example.

Galatians 6:2

Context: Bear one another's burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ, applied to patiently teaching weaker brethren.

Titus 1:9

Context: Holding fast the faithful word to exhort and convince gainsayers by sound doctrine.

2 Timothy 2:24-26

Context: The Lord's servant must not strive but be gentle, patient, and meek in instructing opponents, as God grants repentance.

Luke 24:27-31

Context: Jesus expounded Scriptures to the Emmaus disciples, but their eyes were opened only when God sovereignly acted.

Luke 24:45

Context: Jesus opened the disciples' understanding to comprehend the Scriptures, illustrating divine illumination.

Proverbs 2:6

Context: The Lord gives wisdom, knowledge, and understanding, showing that understanding comes from God alone.

2 Timothy 2:7

Context: Paul tells Timothy to consider what he says, and the Lord will give understanding in all things.

Mark 4:23-25

Context: Take heed what you hear; with the measure you use, it will be measured to you, and more will be given to those who hear.

Mark 4:33-34

Context: Jesus spoke the word as they were able to hear it, and expounded all things to His disciples privately.

Acts 16:14

Context: The Lord opened Lydia's heart to attend to the things spoken by Paul, demonstrating sovereign illumination.

1 Corinthians 4:7

Context: Who makes you differ? What do you have that you did not receive? Used to humble believers and promote patience.

Historical References

Augustine's dictum on essentials and non-essentials

Context: Weaver quotes Augustine: 'In essentials, unity. In non-essentials, liberty. In all things, charity.' to promote tolerance in disputable matters.

Puritan saying about wisdom

Context: Weaver cites the Puritans: 'Oh, how many would be wise if they did not already think themselves so.' to illustrate the know-it-all attitude.

Four main eschatological views

Context: Weaver lists historic premillennialism, amillennialism, post-millennialism, and dispensational premillennialism as examples of non-essential differences that cause division.

Important Quotes

practical Christian living is a result of sound doctrinal teaching. You cannot live what you do not know, what you do not understand, and what you do not believe.

Significance: Establishes the foundational principle that doctrine must precede practice, explaining why conflicts arise from ignorance.

the strong must be willing to teach. And the weak must be willing to be taught.

Significance: Summarizes the mutual responsibilities in resolving conflicts and promoting growth.

fussing and arguing and harassment will never prevail in trying to convince that weak brother that his position is wrong and absurd.

Significance: Directly states the uselessness of arguing, a central theme of the message.

If God does not open our eyes, we will never see the truth. We will never understand the simplest doctrine.

Significance: Highlights the sovereignty of God in illumination, making human argumentation futile.

In essentials, unity. In non-essentials, liberty. In all things, charity.

Significance: Augustine's dictum used to call for charitable treatment in disputable matters.

For who maketh thee to differ from another? And what hast thou that thou didst not receive? Now if thou didst receive it, why dost thou glory as if thou hadst not received it?

Significance: Scripture quotation that undergirds humility and patience by reminding believers all is a gift.

Discussion Questions

How does the principle that 'practical Christian living is a result of sound doctrinal teaching' challenge the way we approach conflicts with other believers?

Context: Weaver emphasizes that doctrine must precede practice; conflicts often stem from doctrinal ignorance.

In what ways do we tend to despise or judge fellow believers over non-essential matters, and how can we guard against this?

Context: Weaver describes the natural tendencies of the strong to despise and the weak to judge.

What does it mean to 'bear the infirmities of the weak' in practical terms within a local church?

Context: Romans 15:1 commands the strong to carry the errors of the weak, not pleasing themselves.

How should the truth that only God grants repentance and illumination affect our approach to teaching and correcting others?

Context: Weaver argues that since God alone opens eyes, we must teach patiently and leave results to Him.

Why is it important to remember that we were once ignorant and resistant to truth when we are tempted to be impatient with others?

Context: Weaver calls for humility by recalling our own past struggles and the grace we received.

How can we apply the principle from Mark 4:24-25 that 'with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you' to our personal study and growth?

Context: God gives understanding in proportion to our meditation and obedience.

Applications

Avoid arguing and instead teach patiently.

Summary: Since arguing is useless, believers should commit to patiently teaching sound doctrine without quarreling, trusting God to open eyes.

Evidence: Weaver says, 'the servant of the Lord must not strive, but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient.'

Cultivate a teachable spirit.

Summary: The weak must be willing to listen, learn, and consider truth rather than defensively clinging to their positions.

Evidence: Weaver states, 'If someone's going to be taught, he has to have a teachable spirit. He has to be willing to listen.'

Bear with the weak by edifying them.

Summary: Strong believers should actively seek to educate and enlighten weaker brethren, not just exercise their own liberties.

Evidence: Weaver explains, 'what we are to do is to please our brethren in edifying, educating, and enlightening them.'

Remember your own dependence on grace.

Summary: Humility in teaching comes from recognizing that all understanding is a gift from God, not personal achievement.

Evidence: Weaver asks, 'what hast thou that thou didst not receive? Now if thou didst receive it, why dost thou glory?'

Apply truth to receive more truth.

Summary: To grow in understanding, believers must meditate on Scripture and obey what they already know, or risk losing even that.

Evidence: Weaver warns, 'If you don't put it into practice, you really don't have it... from him shall be taken even that which he hath.'

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How to Avoid Conflicts 2

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Well, let's open our Bibles, if you would please, today to the book of Romans, chapter 14 again. Romans, chapter 14. This is the second message on how to avoid conflicts between Christians. And I want us to read again the first three verses. Romans, chapter 14. The Word of God says, "Him that is weak in the faith receive ye, but not to doubtful disputations. For one believeth that he may eat all things, another who is weak eateth herbs. Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not, and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth, for God hath received him." Although this message is entitled, "How to Avoid Conflicts Between Christians," there is also a subtitle today, and that is, "The Uselessness and Worthlessness in Arguing."
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You will understand that as we continue. Of course, we looked last week at Romans 14 and verse 1, "Him that is weak in the faith receive ye, but not to doubtful disputations." And I want to point out by way of review one of the leading principles that I enunciated last week, and that is this, that practical Christian living is a result of sound doctrinal teaching. You cannot live what you do not know, what you do not understand, and what you do not believe.
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Practice and application are always built upon doctrine, and it should be painfully evident to each of us that one of the main reasons there are so many unbiblical attitudes and unbiblical actions among Christians is that there is a dearth of biblical doctrine being taught and being presented. We also learn from verse one that there are degrees of faith. There's a weak faith. There's a strong faith. There's a little faith. There's a great faith. You remember, even our Lord looked at his disciples and said, "O ye of little faith." And then again, he said he had not seen so great a faith a little bit later on. So there are varying degrees of faith. There's a weak and strong and everything in between. And in 1 John 2, John distinguishes at least three degrees.
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He talks about young children or babes and young men and fathers. And of course, very obviously, we have to understand that not every believer is on the same level in understanding or in the application of doctrine. And since there are these varying degrees and varying levels of understanding, then conflicts between weak and strong believers are inevitably going to arise. It's also, I believe, critical for us to remember that a believer is still a believer. He may be a weak believer. He may be a strong believer.
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But saving faith is indeed saving faith. It is our faith in Jesus Christ, in His person, and finished work that saves us, and not the degree of our faith. Therefore, we are called upon, in Romans chapter 14, to receive the weak brethren as they really are, that is, real brothers in Christ. So we have to receive them in the bonds of friendship, fellowship, and ministry. And we do not receive them to bicker and to argue and to cause contentions. No, we receive them that we might minister to them and help them and teach them. In fact, Scripture says we are not to receive them to doubtful disputations.
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In other words, there should be no fighting and no arguing. Now, what I want to do today is to take the time to demonstrate from Scripture why it does absolutely no good to fuss and fight and harangue someone because of their beliefs or their lack thereof. One thing I want you to keep in mind while I'm teaching today, and that is this. We are now talking about fellow believers. Okay? We're not talking about the ungodly. We're talking about fellow believers. I'm not referring to someone who denies the deity of Christ, or the death, burial, and resurrection of Christ, or the inspiration of scriptures. I'm not talking about unbelievers. True, it does no good to argue with them either.
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However, with an unbeliever, if they continue to refuse the truth, we may reject them. Because the Bible says in Titus 3, verse 10, "He that is a heretic, after the first and second admonition, reject." However, a great amount of what I'm going to say today toward believers could also be applied to unbelievers as well, but I'm only dealing with the subject of believers today. So, another thing that should be emphasized is this. I'm dealing with that which is known as indifferent. There are things that are considered the adiaphora, or the indifferent things in the scripture. That is, where there is no clear teaching in the scripture, and each man's conscience has been taught differently. We're not talking about clear violations of scripture. Because if there is a clear violation of scripture, there are too many other passages that command us to rebuke and reprove and to admonish and to warn, so I'm not talking about clear violations of scripture. What I'm talking about today is what you and I would call hang-ups, idiosyncrasies, ignorance, past influence and habits.
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And the two things that the Apostle Paul singled out in Romans chapter 14 are meats and dates. There have been, may have been, many other things in the Roman church that caused these conflicts as well. But Paul singled out these two. Likewise, today there may be many varying and different subjects that cause the conflicts. However, usually you're going to find that the majority of conflicts, not only in the New Testament time, but even in our time, stem from a misunderstanding of the ceremonies and the feasts, special days, those things still arise today. Consequently, since there is a difference of opinion on some of those things, there is going to be an occasion for conflicts.
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Now, look very carefully at verses 2 and 3. The Apostle Paul says in Romans 14, verse 2, "For one believeth that he may eat all things, another who is weak eateth herbs. Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not, and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth, for God hath received him."
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Now, I'm going to be commenting more on these verses next week than I am today. But I want you to note, just on the surface of these two verses, it is the strong brother that enjoys the most of God's creation. It is the weak brother that enjoys the least of God's creation. It's also important for you to note that the tendency of someone who is strong in the faith is to despise, condemn, and belittle someone who is weak in the faith. Because someone who is strong in the faith is going to say, "Oh come on, grow up." And it is the tendency of the one who is weak in the faith to judge the strong by saying something like this.
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"I'll see how you can do that and call yourself a Christian." So whenever you have two groups together or two individuals together, and one has a natural tendency to condemn, and are criticized and belittled, and the other has the natural tendency to judge and to be quick in that judgment, then very obviously you're going to have conflicts as well. You're going to have disputations, you're going to have arguments, you're going to have quarrels, and they're going to quickly arise because you're going to find that both the strong and the weak have opposing views, and they're going to be quick to let you know what their views are.
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And they would usually tell you in no uncertain terms. And that will always then lead to conflicts. So conflicts arose then in the time of the Apostle Paul, and most of the time it was over these ceremonial laws. Some of these people believed that because the meat had been offered to an idol, that somehow that meat had become contaminated. And therefore it was unfit for consumption. And some believe that with such ferocity, that in order to make sure that they did not eat any meat at all that had been offered to idols, they became vegetarians.
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That's why he said, one eateth only herbs. So here you have these two groups. By the way, just as a sidelight, I had someone give me a t-shirt. You know what it's going to say? It said, "Vegetarian: another name for the village idiot who cannot hunt or fish." But there are some individuals that are vegetarian, of course, by choice. But here, it was not necessarily that they just chose to be a vegetarian. They chose to be that, but because they thought that somehow all this meat happened to be contaminated because it might have been offered to an idol.
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Now, it is true, once you begin reading Romans 14 and 1 Corinthians 8, which we will get into more next week, that the position that the weaker brother holds may be wrong, unscriptural, and even absurd. Yet what I'm going to show you is that fussing and arguing and harassment will never prevail in trying to convince that weak brother that his position is wrong and absurd.
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Now, let me give you a couple of observations that are going to be vitally important in understanding the message today. First of all, the strong brethren should be willing to help and to teach the weaker brethren. The strong brethren should be willing to help and to teach the weaker brethren. I'm going to show you that from scripture. The second observation is this, the weaker brethren should be willing to be helped and be taught.
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Let me say this another way. The strong must be willing to teach. And the weak must be willing to be taught. Again, the strong must be teachers, and the weak must be teachable. It is absolutely impossible to help or to teach someone who has a know-it-all attitude or thinks that he has already arrived at all truths. And unhappily, a lot of young men in the faith, although they are novices in the faith, refuse to listen and refuse to be instructed because they believe that somehow in their few short years, they have arrived at perfect knowledge. It's an interesting thing that a lot of young people go to college. Not to learn, but to teach the professors and to instruct them.
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The Puritans had a saying that revealed this situation very clearly. The Puritans used to say, "Oh, how many would be wise if they did not already think themselves so." And that is certainly the attitude of a lot of people. So if someone's going to be taught, he has to have a teachable spirit. He has to be willing to listen. He has to be willing to learn. He has to be willing to consider and not just defend his position. All of us by nature want to defend what we believe, what we think, and what we've been taught. I remember very clearly as a young man, the first time I had some of my views challenged.
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You're talking about blowing up. I did. And I rebuked one of my professors. Of course, I found out later he was right and I was wrong, and I had to go back and apologize to him. I'm just simply saying that is the natural tendency of a young man. Don't you remember John classified them as having strength and zeal? Of course. But how many would be wise if they didn't already think themselves so?
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A recalcitrant student always makes teaching more difficult, more laborious, and more onerous. On the other hand, an impatient, angry, and difficult teacher, likewise, makes it almost impossible to learn. So what the Bible teaches is, there must be a willingness to teach, and there must be a willingness to be taught. So I want you to hold Romans 14, but look in your Bibles, if you would, to 2 Timothy 2.
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And notice, if you would please, verse 2. 2 Timothy 2 and verse 2. In fact, we may read verse 1 just to show you that the Apostle Paul is writing to Timothy, and look what he says. "Thou therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus." And watch the instruction that he gives Timothy now. "And the things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses, the same commit thou to faithful men who shall be able to teach others also." Now, Paul said to Timothy, "the things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses."
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Let me paraphrase that for you. The things that you have been taught, the things that I taught you, said the Apostle Paul, 2 Timothy 2 and verse 2. "The things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses, the same," that is those same truths, those same doctrines, "commit thou to faithful men who shall be able to teach others also."
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Now, I want to make something exceedingly clear. In this passage, one is to be willing to teach, and the others must be teachable. Notice the Apostle Paul did not tell Timothy to run everyone down and cram truth down their throat. No. He said the same things that thou hast seen and heard of me, the same commit thou to faithful men who will be able to teach others also. In other words, if I'm obligated to teach, you're obligated to listen. If I'm obligated to teach, you're obligated to learn. And you have to be faithful at learning. You have to be faithful in listening and hearing and applying.
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Our Lord never chased anyone down. Paul told Timothy, "the same commit thou to faithful men who shall be able to teach others also." You see, the truth of the matter is this, folks. If you've been saved by the grace of God, you really should have a desire to learn the Word of God and to be taught. So I'm willing to teach anyone who's willing to listen and who's willing to be faithful in attending the preaching and teaching of the Word of God and listening and learning.
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And I'll clue you in on a little secret. I'm sure you already know this. You can't learn God's Word overnight. It's not one of these things like instant coffee. You just have it, and it is. No. Look back in your Bibles, Romans chapter 15. I'm just trying to show you, once again, it is the obligation, it is the duty, and I will add, it is the privilege of the strong to teach the weak. Look in your Bibles, Romans 15, verses 1 through 3. God in His sovereignty has placed this duty and this obligation upon the strong. I could ask it like this.
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Who best is designed to communicate truth? Those who already know the truth. Those who already understand the truth. Those to whom God has already given the truth. So look in Romans 15 and verse 1. The Apostle says it like this. "We that are strong," and by the way, he classifies himself as a strong believer. He says, "We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let every one of us please his neighbor for his good edification. For even Christ pleased not himself, but as it is written, 'The reproaches of them that reproach thee fell on me.'" Now I want you to note, he said, "We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak." First of all, let me tell you what the word "bear" means. The word "bear" means to take to oneself. It means to sustain, to support, to bear, to carry, to take up in order to carry. So the apostle tells us, we then that are strong ought to carry the infirmities of the weak.
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The word "infirmities" here refers to an error arising from a weakness of the mind. An error arising from a weakness of the mind.
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Now listen, it does not mean that someone is stupid just because they don't know something. It does not mean that someone is mentally deficient. It does not mean that someone is plain crazy. No, it doesn't mean that at all. It just means very obviously that someone is not thinking straight in some area. I can assure you if you tried to get me in an area other than theology, history, and philosophy, I would not be thinking straight in some of those areas. I would not be thinking straight in the field of engineering. I would not be thinking straight in the field of finished carpentry. I would not be thinking straight in a number of fields. And therefore, I would have to be taught because I would have an infirmity in that particular area. So it doesn't mean that someone is stupid, it just means he has a dull, inconsistent understanding in one specific area.
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So he says, "We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak." Now notice he says, "and not to please ourselves." What's the Apostle Paul mean? He simply means this, the strong in such an instance are not to please themselves, which is simply to go on their merry way, exercising their Christian liberties without regard for their weaker brethren. Rather, he says, what we are to do is to please our brethren in edifying, educating, and enlightening them.
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Which sometimes is a very painful and difficult task. But then he tells us why. He says in verse 2, "Let every one of us please his neighbor for his good edification, for even Christ pleased not himself." In other words, Christ did not come to live for himself. He came to do the Father's will. He came to give himself and his life a ransom for his people. He sacrificed himself. He lived a sacrificial life. In other words, he gave everything to purchase us.
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And here's the apostle's argument. If Christ has given everything and sacrificed everything for us, cannot we sacrifice a little toward the weaker brethren? Remember what our Lord said in Luke 22 and verse 27, let me just quote it. Our Lord asked his disciples this question, "For whether is greater, he that sitteth at meat or him that serveth?" And then he asked, "Is not he that sitteth at meat?" And then he says this, "But I am among you as one that serveth." So Christ did not come to be served, but to serve. He did not come to be ministered to, but to minister.
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And so He's telling us here, we that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak and not to please ourselves. Now, go in your Bibles to the book of Galatians chapter 6 and look if you would please at verse 2. Galatians 6 and verse 2. Here's an interesting scripture in light of what I've just read. Galatians 6 and verse 2, the word of God says, "Bear ye one another's burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ." Bear ye one another's burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ. So the question has to be asked, how do we bear one another's burdens? And in light of this message, the answer is by patiently teaching, educating, encouraging our weaker brethren in the faith.
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One of the greatest sources of conflicts between Christians arise when one brother does not see exactly the same way on an issue as does another brother. When you have two Christians that disagree, if they have not learned Christian discipline, self-control, charity, inevitably what they're going to do is get into a heated discussion. And during that heated discussion, each one is going to try to prove his own point. And when the other Christian does not see or understand or comprehend the point that is trying to be proved, then the other Christian is going to usually end up getting angry and calling him stupid or a heretic or some name like that. And the next thing you know, there's going to be a division and a loss of friendship. And that's it.
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And everything goes downhill from there. I suppose one of my favorite cartoons that I saw years ago reveals this mentality. I saw the cartoon, the pastor was walking down the hall of the church with a gentleman and there was an open door in a room and here were these two men rolling around on the floor fighting. Each one of them had a black eye, their hair was pulled, their shirts were all out, scratched, bleeding. And the pastor just calmly says, as the man looked in the room, said, "Oh, never mind them. They're just having their weekly discussion on the doctrine of election." Well, you know, that's the way it goes a lot of times.
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Do you realize the same could be said concerning eschatology? I've known pastors who are absolutely ready to fight if you did not believe exactly the way they believed concerning the return of Christ. In fact, I have known pastors and I have heard pastors call other preachers heretics because they differed eschatologically speaking.
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Now I want to just very quickly show you and demonstrate the insanity of name-calling and fighting over eschatology. Let me just point something out. Do you realize there's four main views when it comes to eschatology? There is historic premillennialism that just simply says that Christ is going to return before the millennium, did not teach a rapture or anything like that. It's just called historic premillennialism. There's amillennialism, which came to pass in the 4th century under Augustine. There is post-millennialism, and then there is dispensational premillennialism. And there are varying views within those four major views. For instance, once you get into dispensational premillennialism, there's pre-trib, raptures, there's mid-trib, there's post-trib, there's all kind of views. But the point I'm trying to make is this. If someone is a historical premill, if someone is an amill, if someone is a postmill, if someone is a dispensational premill, each one of them believes that Jesus Christ is going to return to this earth literally, visibly, and bodily.
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The only thing they disagree on is when and how. So how can someone be called a heretic if he really believes that Jesus Christ is coming literally, visibly, bodily? He just disagrees with somebody as to when he's coming back and how he's coming back. You see what I'm saying? And yet, eschatology is such a source of division.
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Now, it is true that eschatology is important, and your eschatology does indeed determine your worldview, and it does indeed determine your application of Scripture. But yet neither one of those four major positions denies the return of Christ. So why in the world, then, are you going to argue with somebody and fuss and fight and call somebody a heretic just because he doesn't believe that Christ is going to return exactly when you think he is or how he thinks he's going to return or how you think he's going to return? You see, Augustine, one of the early church fathers, had a dictum.
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And here's what he said. "In essentials, unity. In non-essentials, liberty. In all things, charity." And it would do well for modern day Christians to understand that dictum and certainly apply the charity to many situations. It's absolutely true that we're required to teach and minister to each other, however, it must be done in a biblical manner and it must be done with biblical understanding. So how do we minister to each other in a biblical manner and with biblical understanding? Well, I want you to look in your Bibles, first of all, to the book of Titus, chapter one and verse nine. Then we'll turn right back a page or two to 2 Timothy, but notice Titus 1 and verse 9. Look what Paul tells Titus.
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He says, "Holding fast the faithful word as he has been taught, that he may be able by sound doctrine both to exhort and convince the gainsayers." So if we're going to convince anyone, if we're going to convict anyone, it must be with sound doctrine. It cannot be, "Well, I think," or "in my opinion," or "the way I see it," or "let me tell you what I've been taught." No. We have to be able to use the Word of God and with sound doctrine present the position that's being taught. Now, it's not just sound doctrine.
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Turn back to 2 Timothy chapter 2 and let's begin reading there in verse 24. So we must have sound doctrine, that is true, but there's more than just sound doctrine. In 2 Timothy 2 verse 24, the Apostle Paul writes, "And the servant of the Lord must not strive, but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, in meekness instructing those that oppose themselves, if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth; and that they may recover themselves out of the snare of the devil, who were taken captive by him at his will." Now, let's go back, if you would, to verse 24 first. He said, "...and the servant of the Lord must not strive." The word "strive" there refers to a war of words. It refers to what you and I would call quarreling, arguing, wrangling, and fighting. So negatively, we're not to strive with each other in this sense. We're not to receive each other to doubtful disputations. On the positive side, in verse 24, we're to be able to teach, we're to be patient, we're to be meek, we're to be humble in instructing those that oppose themselves.
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Now let me ask you a question. If one opposes himself, that is, if he refuses to receive the truth, if he balks, if he doesn't understand, is he likely to submit to the teaching immediately? No. No. That's why the one doing the teaching has to be patient and gentle. Because once you oppose yourself, you're not going to see everything right away. Let me ask you another question.
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Let's suppose that someone is in error. What will it take for him to repent? Well, look in verse 25. "In meekness instructing those that oppose themselves, if God peradventure will give the repentance to the acknowledging of the truth." Who is it that gives repentance? It's God. Can we demand that God give someone repentance? Can we demand that God give someone repentance right now? Can we dictate to God that He must do something based upon our schedule and our timetable? The answer is no. If God doesn't give a man repentance, he'll never turn from his foolishness. He'll never turn from his error. He'll never turn from his stupidity. That's why the scripture said we have to patiently and meekly teach the truth. It's God who gives repentance. And if men are going to recover themselves from the snare of the devil, it's only as God gives them repentance.
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What we have failed to do is this. We have failed to connect two absolute truths. Here they are. The sovereignty of God in salvation and the sovereignty of God in illumination. The God who is absolutely sovereign in salvation is absolutely sovereign in illumination. God does not give everyone the same amount of truth, nor does He give everyone the same truth at the same time. Just as God is sovereign in disposing or giving grace and faith and repentance, that same God is just as sovereign in giving illumination and enlightenment. And the truth of the matter is this, if God does not open our eyes, we will never see the truth. We will never understand the simplest doctrine. It is true that we have a responsibility to study and to know and to learn the truth. But just because we have that responsibility does not mean that we have the ability in and of ourselves. There's a difference between responsibility and ability. And we think somehow that we can make people see the truth. We can't. It's true we are to be qualified to use scripture and to teach sound doctrine.
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But I could teach sound doctrine all day long. If God does not open your eyes, you will never, ever see it. Let me give you an illustration. Look back in your Bibles to the book of Luke 24. Everyone knows the story of the two disciples on the Emmaus road. You remember, they're walking down that road. And our Lord, after his resurrection, joins himself to these disciples. And I want you to note this.
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They did not know who he was. Our Lord asked them, "Why are you so glum? What's wrong with you?" And they say, "Are you a stranger? Have you not heard? We thought this Jesus was the Messiah, and he's been crucified. And besides this, it's the third day." And our Lord looked at them and said, "O fools and slow of heart to believe all that the prophets have written! Ought not Christ to have suffered and entered into glory?" And then, beginning at Moses and all the prophets, he explained to them all things concerning himself.
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Now, we're in Luke chapter 24, and I want you to note something. Verse 27, "And beginning at Moses and all the prophets, he expounded to them in all the scriptures the things concerning himself. And they drew nigh unto the village whither they went. And he made as though he would have gone further. But they constrained him, saying, 'Abide with us, for it is toward evening, and the day is far spent.' And he went in to tarry with them."
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"And it came to pass, as he sat at meat with them, he took bread, and blessed it, and brake it, and gave it them." Watch verse 31, "And their eyes were opened, and they knew him, and he vanished out of their sight." They had walked with him for miles, and did not know who he was. By the way, I want to give you a quick lesson in Greek. But the scripture says in verse 31, "and their eyes were opened."
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It is an aorist passive. An aorist means something that happens once and for all. It is passive. It means the subject had nothing to do with it. It was done to the subject. So what God did was He sovereignly opened their eyes and they knew then who He was. Had God not opened their eyes, they would have never ever known who He was. I want you to watch this.
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Let's skip down to verse 42. Because our Lord has now revealed himself to the other disciples, "And they gave him a piece of broiled fish and a honeycomb, and he took it and did eat before them. And he said unto them, 'These are the words which I have spoken to you while I was yet with you, that all things must be fulfilled which were written in the law of Moses and in the prophets and in the Psalms concerning me.'" Are you watching?
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"Then opened he their understanding that they might understand the scriptures." What did he do? He opened their understanding. Why? That they might understand the Scriptures. They did not see the truth on their own. They did not understand the truth on their own. They did not comprehend the truth on their own. And had he not sovereignly, powerfully opened their understanding, they would have never seen the truth. But our Lord opened their understanding that they might understand the scriptures.
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Now, it's imperative that you and I understand the biblical doctrine of illumination. Here's the biblical doctrine of illumination. Listen carefully. Illumination is the act and work of God the Spirit, whereby he opens our understanding, enlightens our minds, and enables us to understand previously revealed truth, which of course is the Bible. So here's the illumination. It's the act and work of God the Spirit whereby he opens our understanding, enlightens our minds, and enables us to understand truth that has been previously revealed. There is no way that you and I can understand any of the scripture apart from illumination. I've had people tell me for years, "I just can't understand the Bible." Of course you can't. Neither can I. Not on our own, not apart from illumination. And this business about, "Well, we just need newer versions, easier to understand." That's hogwash. You don't need a newer version. You don't need something that you think is easy to understand. What you need is to be illuminated by the Holy Spirit. I don't see how, "The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want."
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It's too difficult. How about, "You must be born again." That's not too difficult. How about, "Except ye repent, ye shall likewise perish." That's not difficult either. The problem is not with the difficulty of the plain text of Scripture. The problem is the dullness of our mind. And we don't understand. And unless God opens our eyes, we will never, ever see it. Period.
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Now, I want you to turn to two passages. I want you to turn to Proverbs 2 and 2 Timothy chapter 2. Proverbs 2 and 2 Timothy chapter 2. I want you to see where understanding comes from. Look in Proverbs chapter 2 and verse 6 and then we're going to 2 Timothy chapter 2 and verse 7. Proverbs 2 verse 6. Look at what the scripture says. "For the Lord giveth wisdom: out of His mouth cometh knowledge and understanding." Where do wisdom and understanding and knowledge come from? From God alone. If we understand anything, it's because He gave us understanding. Now look in 2 Timothy 2 and verse 7. Look what Paul told Timothy. Paul wrote Timothy and he said, "Consider what I say, and the Lord give thee understanding in all things." Consider what I say, and the Lord give thee understanding in all things.
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The duty, the obligation and honor and privilege of considering God's truth is ours. However, it is only God who has the gift of understanding, and it is only God who gives that gift and enables us to understand His truth. It does not matter if we're babes in Christ, or young men in Christ, or fathers in Christ. None of us can ever understand the Scripture apart from the illumination of the Holy Spirit.
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I could be saved 250 years. That doesn't mean a thing. I still need the illumination of the Holy Spirit if I want to understand the Scripture. Those who have advanced in the faith have done so because they considered what God said, and God opened their eyes to the truth. Had God not opened our eyes, we would still be babes as well.
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Now, I want you to turn in your Bibles to the book of Mark, chapter 4. And look, if you would please, beginning there with verse 23, because we're talking about God giving understanding. Paul told Timothy, "Consider what I say and the Lord give thee understanding in all things." Now, let me try to show you the principles that Christ lays out in Mark 4 in understanding and applying the word of God. Look at Mark 4. Let's begin there with verse 23. Mark 4, verse 23.
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"If any man have ears to hear, let him hear. And he said unto them, 'Take heed what you hear: with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you. And unto you that hear shall more be given. For he that hath, to him shall be given, and he that hath not, from him shall be taken, even that which he hath.'"
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Now, although God gives understanding, folks, God does not give it willy-nilly. He normally gives understanding as we meditate upon His Word. And here's what our Lord says, to the measure we give in meditating and considering God's truth, to that same measure, God measures truth back to us. We're not going to study for 15 minutes and get four hours worth of truth. We're not going to study an hour and get two days worth of truth. If we study 15 minutes and God opens our eyes, we're going to get 15 minutes worth of truth. If we studied an hour and God opens our eyes, we're going to get an hour's worth of truth. But the truth of the matter is this, we could study for the rest of our lives, and if God never opened our eyes, we would not understand the truth. But here's what he's saying. Look in verse 25. In fact, let's take verse 24, "And he said unto them, 'Take heed what you hear: with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you.'"
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Now watch, "and unto you that hear shall more be given." Now the opposite is also true. To those who do not hear, no more will be given.
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Now this principle alone should explain why most professing Christians are no more than babes in Christ. This principle alone should explain why the average church has so many problems. First, most Christians do not study or meditate upon the Word of God.
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Secondly, they do not apply what they hear and what they know. They do not put it into practice. And I've got news for you folks. If you don't put it into practice, you really don't have it. That's why the Bible says in verse 25, "from him shall be taken even that which he hath." You think you know truth. I tell you what you do. You don't apply it.
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And just shortly, you will totally, absolutely forget it. Period. Let me ask you. Our Lord said, "and to you that hear shall more be given." Why would God give anyone more truth if they won't obey the truth that He's already given them? Obviously. Let me point something else out. God only gives us truth as we're able to hear it. God only gives us truth as we're able to hear it.
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I used the illustration last week. You would not take a two month old baby and feed that baby a T-bone steak. Very obviously, he's not able to eat it, swallow it, or digest it. You know, I've heard Christians say this concerning truth that they now hold dear and believe, they say, "Oh, would God I'd heard this 20 years ago." Wouldn't have done you any good. Because you may not have been able to hear it 20 years ago. You may not have been able to understand it 20 years ago.
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Look at what the Scripture says. Look in Mark four, verse 33. Here it is, black and white, Mark 4, verse 33, "...and with many such parables spake he the word unto them, as they were able to hear it." God's not going to give you truth until you're able to hear it. And if you continue to reject what He's already given you, He's just not going to give you any more. You're never going to be in a position to hear more truth until you obey what you already know. You say, "Well, I'd like to know more. I would really like to learn."
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How do I grow in grace and faith? How do I grow in understanding and enlightenment? Well, look at verse 34. "But without a parable spake he not unto them: and when they were alone, he expounded all things to his disciples." If you really, really want to understand, then you need to learn to get along with Jesus Christ and seek him, and talk with him and ask him for understanding and enlightenment and he'll teach you.
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That's what the scripture says. So just what I'm showing you, since you understand that God is sovereign in illumination, that God does not give everyone the same amount of understanding nor the same degree of understanding at the same time, and since they're babes and young men and fathers, and since if God does not open our eyes, we'll never understand. Here's my question. What good does it get to get mad at someone for not understanding? Why should I argue? Why should I fuss? Why should I get all bent out of shape just because you don't see something? I may want you to see it. I may long for you to see it. But I can't open your eyes. I cannot give you understanding. That's the gift of God. That's why it requires patience on my part. It requires patience on your part.
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That you have to continually teach the same thing over and over and over and over until God in his grace. Now, look in your Bibles to the book of Acts chapter 16 and look at verse 14. Here's Lydia. Everyone should know about Lydia. Lydia was the seller of purple in Thyatira. But I want you to know what the Bible says concerning her. And I really like this verse because it really explains everything that I've been saying. Acts chapter 16. Let's begin reading there verse 13. "And on the Sabbath, we went out of the city by a river side where prayer was wont to be made, and we sat down." Now look what Paul says, "and spake to the women which resorted thither. And a certain woman named Lydia, a seller of purple of the city of Thyatira, who worshiped God, heard us: whose heart the Lord opened, that she attended unto the things which were spoken by Paul."
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Now let me ask you a question. Why did Lydia listen intently, seriously, and with understanding to those things which were spoken by the Apostle Paul? Because the Lord opened her heart. Unless God opens our heart, which is our understanding, we'll never ever see truth.
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Now, there's just one more truth that has to be comprehended. I'm going to tie it together. Let me ask you this. What is it that will keep us meek and humble as we try to help others? Let me mention several things. The first one is this. None of us came into this world with understanding. You were not born with understanding. You were taught everything that you now know. Secondly, not only were you not born with understanding, it took time for you to learn that which you now know and believe.
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You did not arrive where you are overnight. It took years of listening and learning and submitting to the Word of God to get where you are now in your understanding.
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Thirdly, many of us in the beginning were obnoxious, recalcitrant, and reluctant to receive that which we now hold and believe to be absolute truth. We fought it. We ridiculed it. We laughed. We refused to believe it as it was taught. And now God has opened our eyes. Thankfully, whoever taught us never threw us away. And even more thankfully, God did not leave us to ourselves and our ignorance.
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So let me ask you, where are you in your Christian faith? And why are you there? I want you to turn to one last passage. I want you to look in 1 Corinthians chapter 4. And look, if you would please, at verse 7. Where are you and why are you where you are in your Christian faith? Look in 1 Corinthians 4 and verse 7 at the questions the Apostle Paul asked. Look what he asked.
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"For who maketh thee to differ from another? And what hast thou that thou didst not receive? Now if thou didst receive it, why dost thou glory as if thou hadst not received it?" What? For who made you to differ one from another? Why are you saved and others lost? Why do you have understanding and others are ignorant? Who made you to differ? And what do you have that was not given to you by the grace and mercy of God? And Paul asks, if you have received it, why then are you boasting or acting as if you did not receive it?
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In other words, Paul's argument is simply this. If God was gracious and merciful and patient with us and gave us His gift of understanding, everything we have is His gift. Can we not be merciful and gracious and patient with others until God opens their eyes as well? Because everything that we are and everything that we have, God gave us. And it's now incumbent upon us to teach others without arguing, without bickering, without bellyaching and complaining, but just patiently and gently and kindly sharing the Word of God constantly, consistently and continually until God opens the eyes.
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Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, we bow to Thee. We thank You. We praise You. And Lord, we acknowledge that everything we are, we are by the grace of God. Paul said, "I am what I am by the grace of God." And Lord, we have what we have by the grace of God. Every little bit of understanding you gave us. And Lord, we acknowledge that every good gift and every perfect gift cometh down from above, from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning. Teach us, Lord, to share that which we've known, and to do so patiently and humbly for thy honor and thy glory. In Christ's name we pray, amen.
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How to Avoid Conflicts 2

John Weaver | Freedom Ministries

John Weaver continues his series on avoiding conflicts between Christians, focusing on the uselessness of arguing over non-essential matters. He emphasizes that practical Christian living flows from sound doctrine, that believers have varying degrees of faith and understanding, and that conflicts arise when strong and weak believers despise or judge one another. The strong must be willing to teach patiently, and the weak must be teachable. Weaver argues that arguing is futile because only God can grant repentance and illumination; understanding is a sovereign gift. He calls for meekness, patience, and charity, reminding listeners that everything they have is received by grace.

Introduction and Review

Scripture Reading — Romans 14:1-3

"Him that is weak in the faith receive ye, but not to doubtful disputations. For one believeth that he may eat all things, another who is weak eateth herbs. Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not, and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth, for God hath received him."

Although this message is entitled, "How to Avoid Conflicts Between Christians," there is also a subtitle today, and that is, "The Uselessness and Worthlessness in Arguing."

The Nature of Conflicts Over Indifferent Matters

However, with an unbeliever, if they continue to refuse the truth, we may reject them. Because the Bible says in Titus 3, verse 10,

Scripture Reading — Titus 3:10

"He that is a heretic, after the first and second admonition, reject."

The Obligation to Teach and Be Teachable

Scripture Reading — 2 Timothy 2:2

"And the things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses, the same commit thou to faithful men who shall be able to teach others also."

Now, Paul said to Timothy,

Scripture Reading — 2 Timothy 2:2

"the things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses."

Bearing the Infirmities of the Weak

Scripture Reading — Romans 15:1-3

" means to take to oneself. It means to sustain, to support, to bear, to carry, to take up in order to carry. So the apostle tells us, we then that are strong ought to carry the infirmities of the weak.

The Futility of Arguing and Name-Calling

Arguing over non-essentials like eschatology is useless and divisive. Augustine's dictum is cited: 'In essentials, unity; in non-essentials, liberty; in all things, charity.'

Biblical Manner of Teaching: Patience and Meekness

From 2 Timothy 2:24-26, teaching must be done with gentleness, patience, and meekness, recognizing that only God grants repentance and recovery from error.

Scripture Reading — 2 Timothy 2:24-26

"And the servant of the Lord must not strive, but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, in meekness instructing those that oppose themselves, if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth; and that they may recover themselves out of the snare of the devil, who were taken captive by him at his will."

Now, let's go back, if you would, to verse 24 first. He said,

Scripture Reading — 2 Timothy 2:24-26

"...and the servant of the Lord must not strive."

The word "strive

Scripture Reading — 2 Timothy 2:24-26

" there refers to a war of words. It refers to what you and I would call quarreling, arguing, wrangling, and fighting. So negatively, we're not to strive with each other in this sense. We're not to receive each other to doubtful disputations. On the positive side, in verse 24, we're to be able to teach, we're to be patient, we're to be meek, we're to be humble in instructing those that oppose themselves.

The Sovereignty of God in Illumination

Now, we're in Luke chapter 24, and I want you to note something. Verse 27,

Scripture Reading — Luke 24:27-31

"And beginning at Moses and all the prophets, he expounded to them in all the scriptures the things concerning himself. And they drew nigh unto the village whither they went. And he made as though he would have gone further. But they constrained him, saying, 'Abide with us, for it is toward evening, and the day is far spent.' And he went in to tarry with them." "And it came to pass, as he sat at meat with them, he took bread, and blessed it, and brake it, and gave it them."

Watch verse 31,

Scripture Reading — Luke 24:27-31

"And their eyes were opened, and they knew him, and he vanished out of their sight."

They had walked with him for miles, and did not know who he was. By the way, I want to give you a quick lesson in Greek. But the scripture says in verse 31,

Scripture Reading — Luke 24:27-31

"and their eyes were opened."

Scripture Reading — Proverbs 2:6

"For the Lord giveth wisdom: out of His mouth cometh knowledge and understanding."

Principles of Receiving Truth

From Mark 4:23-25, God gives understanding in measure as we meditate on His Word. Truth is given as we are able to hear it, and failure to apply truth results in losing even what we think we have.

Scripture Reading — Mark 4:33-34

"...and with many such parables spake he the word unto them, as they were able to hear it."

Humility in Teaching Others

We should be humble because we were once ignorant, took time to learn, and often resisted truth. 1 Corinthians 4:7 reminds us that everything we have is a gift, so we must be patient with others.

How to Avoid Conflicts 2

John Weaver | SermonAudio

Lecture Metadata	Details
Speaker	John Weaver
Source	SermonAudio
Media ID	6211742161
Subject	Old Testament Studies
Course	Proverbs: The Fear of the Lord and Wisdom: The Doctrine of Election
Genre	Sermon
Date	2011-04-10
Dictation Name
Book	Book 153: How to Avoid Conflicts — Chapter 2
Source Timed Segments	77

Lecture Guide

Outline

Introduction and Review: Weaver reviews the previous message on Romans 14:1, emphasizing that practical Christian living is built on sound doctrine and that believers have varying degrees of faith, which inevitably leads to conflicts.
The Nature of Conflicts Over Indifferent Matters: Conflicts addressed are between believers over adiaphora (indifferent things) like meats and days, not clear violations of Scripture. The strong tend to despise the weak, and the weak tend to judge the strong.
The Obligation to Teach and Be Teachable: The strong must be willing to teach, and the weak must be teachable. Using 2 Timothy 2:2, Weaver shows that truth is to be committed to faithful people who can teach others, requiring a teachable spirit.
Bearing the Infirmities of the Weak: Romans 15:1-3 commands the strong to bear the infirmities of the weak, meaning to carry their errors arising from mental weakness, not pleasing themselves but edifying others, following Christ's example of self-sacrifice.
The Futility of Arguing and Name-Calling: Arguing over non-essentials like eschatology is useless and divisive. Augustine's dictum is cited: 'In essentials, unity; in non-essentials, liberty; in all things, charity.'
Biblical Manner of Teaching: Patience and Meekness: From 2 Timothy 2:24-26, teaching must be done with gentleness, patience, and meekness, recognizing that only God grants repentance and recovery from error.
The Sovereignty of God in Illumination: God is sovereign in giving understanding. Using Luke 24 and other passages, Weaver shows that no one can understand Scripture unless God opens their eyes. Illumination is the Spirit's work enabling comprehension of revealed truth.
Principles of Receiving Truth: From Mark 4:23-25, God gives understanding in measure as we meditate on His Word. Truth is given as we are able to hear it, and failure to apply truth results in losing even what we think we have.
Humility in Teaching Others: We should be humble because we were once ignorant, took time to learn, and often resisted truth. 1 Corinthians 4:7 reminds us that everything we have is a gift, so we must be patient with others.

Major Themes

Key Arguments

Arguing is useless because only God grants repentance and understanding.

Since God alone gives repentance and opens eyes, arguing cannot force someone to see truth; patient teaching is required.

Weaver says, 'Who is it that gives repentance? It's God. Can we demand that God give someone repentance? ... The answer is no.'

Conflicts arise from despising or judging over indifferent matters.

The strong tend to despise the weak, and the weak tend to judge the strong, leading to disputes over non-essential issues.

Weaver notes, 'the tendency of someone who is strong in the faith is to despise, condemn, and belittle someone who is weak... the tendency of the one who is weak in the faith to judge the strong.'

Teaching must be done with gentleness and patience, not strife.

2 Timothy 2:24-26 commands the Lord's servant to avoid quarreling and instead gently instruct opponents, waiting on God for their repentance.

Weaver reads, 'the servant of the Lord must not strive, but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, in meekness instructing those that oppose themselves.'

Understanding is a sovereign gift, not a human achievement.

1 Corinthians 4:7 shows that everything we have is received from God, so we have no grounds for boasting or impatience with others.

Weaver quotes, 'For who maketh thee to differ from another? And what hast thou that thou didst not receive?'

God gives truth in proportion to our meditation and obedience.

Mark 4:24-25 teaches that the measure we give in considering God's Word determines the measure of understanding we receive.

Weaver explains, 'to the measure we give in meditating and considering God's truth, to that same measure, God measures truth back to us.'

Scripture References

Romans 14:1-3: The primary text for the series, emphasizing receiving the weak without disputations and not despising or judging over matters like eating.
Titus 3:10: Cited to distinguish dealing with heretics (reject after two admonitions) from dealing with weak believers.
2 Timothy 2:2: Used to show that truth is to be committed to faithful people who can teach others, requiring teachability.
Romans 15:1-3: Commands the strong to bear the infirmities of the weak and not please themselves, following Christ's example.
Galatians 6:2: Bear one another's burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ, applied to patiently teaching weaker brethren.
Titus 1:9: Holding fast the faithful word to exhort and convince gainsayers by sound doctrine.
2 Timothy 2:24-26: The Lord's servant must not strive but be gentle, patient, and meek in instructing opponents, as God grants repentance.
Luke 24:27-31: Jesus expounded Scriptures to the Emmaus disciples, but their eyes were opened only when God sovereignly acted.
Luke 24:45: Jesus opened the disciples' understanding to comprehend the Scriptures, illustrating divine illumination.
Proverbs 2:6: The Lord gives wisdom, knowledge, and understanding, showing that understanding comes from God alone.
2 Timothy 2:7: Paul tells Timothy to consider what he says, and the Lord will give understanding in all things.
Mark 4:23-25: Take heed what you hear; with the measure you use, it will be measured to you, and more will be given to those who hear.
Mark 4:33-34: Jesus spoke the word as they were able to hear it, and expounded all things to His disciples privately.
Acts 16:14: The Lord opened Lydia's heart to attend to the things spoken by Paul, demonstrating sovereign illumination.
1 Corinthians 4:7: Who makes you differ? What do you have that you did not receive? Used to humble believers and promote patience.

Historical References

Augustine's dictum on essentials and non-essentials: Weaver quotes Augustine: 'In essentials, unity. In non-essentials, liberty. In all things, charity.' to promote tolerance in disputable matters.
Puritan saying about wisdom: Weaver cites the Puritans: 'Oh, how many would be wise if they did not already think themselves so.' to illustrate the know-it-all attitude.
Four main eschatological views: Weaver lists historic premillennialism, amillennialism, post-millennialism, and dispensational premillennialism as examples of non-essential differences that cause division.

Important Quotes

practical Christian living is a result of sound doctrinal teaching. You cannot live what you do not know, what you do not understand, and what you do not believe.

Establishes the foundational principle that doctrine must precede practice, explaining why conflicts arise from ignorance.

the strong must be willing to teach. And the weak must be willing to be taught.

Summarizes the mutual responsibilities in resolving conflicts and promoting growth.

fussing and arguing and harassment will never prevail in trying to convince that weak brother that his position is wrong and absurd.

Directly states the uselessness of arguing, a central theme of the message.

If God does not open our eyes, we will never see the truth. We will never understand the simplest doctrine.

Highlights the sovereignty of God in illumination, making human argumentation futile.

In essentials, unity. In non-essentials, liberty. In all things, charity.

Augustine's dictum used to call for charitable treatment in disputable matters.

For who maketh thee to differ from another? And what hast thou that thou didst not receive? Now if thou didst receive it, why dost thou glory as if thou hadst not received it?

Scripture quotation that undergirds humility and patience by reminding believers all is a gift.

Discussion Questions

[Question]

How does the principle that 'practical Christian living is a result of sound doctrinal teaching' challenge the way we approach conflicts with other believers?

[Context]

Weaver emphasizes that doctrine must precede practice; conflicts often stem from doctrinal ignorance.

[Question]

In what ways do we tend to despise or judge fellow believers over non-essential matters, and how can we guard against this?

[Context]

Weaver describes the natural tendencies of the strong to despise and the weak to judge.

[Question]

What does it mean to 'bear the infirmities of the weak' in practical terms within a local church?

[Context]

Romans 15:1 commands the strong to carry the errors of the weak, not pleasing themselves.

[Question]

How should the truth that only God grants repentance and illumination affect our approach to teaching and correcting others?

[Context]

Weaver argues that since God alone opens eyes, we must teach patiently and leave results to Him.

[Question]

Why is it important to remember that we were once ignorant and resistant to truth when we are tempted to be impatient with others?

[Context]

Weaver calls for humility by recalling our own past struggles and the grace we received.

[Question]

How can we apply the principle from Mark 4:24-25 that 'with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you' to our personal study and growth?

[Context]

God gives understanding in proportion to our meditation and obedience.

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